The last time that a man pissed me off, I purchased a property, quit my job, started a business and travelled to 15 countries.

Most people do one of two things with painful energy. They collapse into it and let it drain them for months. Or they suppress it — and it leaks out sideways in ways they don't intend. Neither is the move. Every high-achieving woman I know has felt the specific burn of being underestimated, dismissed, or betrayed. That energy is not a wound to be healed before you can move. It is a resource to be directed. The women who have built the most extraordinary things in my life have almost universally done it on the heels of being told they couldn't. When I feel that fire — and I know the feeling, it's specific, it's physical — I ask myself one question before I do anything with it: What do I want to build? Not what do I want to say. Not what do I want to prove. What do I want to build? And then I build it. With everything I have. Using the energy exactly as it arrived — intense, clear, and completely unafraid. The most powerful thing you can do with someone's doubt about you is build something extraordinary with it. I'm living proof this works.