Avoiding a good girl because you aren't where you want to be in life:

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The video resonates with a common internal conflict many individuals face, particularly men, regarding the timing of relationships versus personal ambition. The speaker's direct and relatable advice offers a counter-narrative to the 'grind culture' that often prioritizes career over personal life, making it shareable.

Summary

The speaker discusses how men often avoid pursuing relationships because they feel they haven't reached their desired life goals. He argues that this mindset is flawed, as there's never a perfect time and pushing away genuine connections due to self-doubt can lead to regret.

Structure

1Introduction of the problem: avoiding good partners due to life's current stage.
2Explanation of the mindset: self-doubt and the belief that one must achieve goals before pursuing love.
3Critique of the mindset: the 'finish line fantasy' and the importance of self-love.
4Advice: take a chance on a good person, as the perfect time doesn't exist.
5Conclusion: don't sabotage potential relationships due to perceived inadequacy.

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Avoiding a good girl because you aren't where you want to be in life:

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You’re are worth more than you can provide #fyp #Relationship #girlfriend #boyfriend #dating

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Transcript

I don't know who can agree with me on this or who can relate with me on this but I feel like one of the worst feelings on this journey of success is avoiding talking to a person just because you feel like you're not in the right position where you want to be in life because one thing I've learned on this journey of success is that if you're not happy with where you're at right now you will always push away love when it comes and high value males, entrepreneurs, people that have a lot of goals and just have a lot of things that they want to get to in life, I feel like tend to fall into this category and so much time we avoid talking to that person just because we can't comprehend how could they love us at where we're at in life because we don't love ourselves and consciously we're always talking to ourselves, talking things out in our head, that's why you hear men say these things like, you know, I have to stay locked in right now, this is not the right time for me because I'm going after all these things. Therefore, so many times men push love away even when we know it's pure. And I understand you're not where you want to be at life right now and you want to get to that destination. The destination always changes. There's always more. This whole finish line fantasy is a facade. If you're talking to a girl that you know is pure, give her out a shot. So when that person comes in your life that you want to give her a shot, don't kick her to the curb because you don't like the chapter that you're in in life. Because one day you're gonna look back and wish you did. So all I say is that there will never be the perfect time. You like a girl, take the time to get to know her, take her on a date. In this generation, it's already hard enough to come across pure intentions, a great girl. So don't sabotage the relationship because you think you're not in the right position to talk to somebody. If she's the right girl, she will be with you along the process.