I called him 30 minutes after giving birth. He said 'We're done.'

Before a woman leaves you, or before a woman decides to leave, it is not the day she tells you she's leaving that she has already decided. Years ago she had made that decision. When I had my third daughter, that day I knew that it was over. On the first year birthday of my second. He has an elder sister who would tell him from time to time, come and rest. Joy and those children are stressing you. Mind you, nobody came for Omugwo all three times. He will pack his bags, leave Lagos, go to Asaba and rest. He will cook for him morning, afternoon and night. He would enjoy himself. He would rest and then he will come back. One of those trips, he was in Asaba and I realized that I was pregnant. I called him, can I talk to you, can you sit down? Are you pregnant? I'm like yes. He says so what do you want to do about it? There's something that happens to you when you're carrying all the weight, you might not realize it at the time, but when it hits you, it hits you really hard. Everything starts to make sense, everything starts to connect. I said what do you mean? He says your body, if you want to keep it, you keep it. If you want to take it out, I said I want to take it out but I don't know where, sir. What do you want to do? I told myself, you know what, I was going to have this baby but that was going to be the end. Throughout my third pregnancy, you would not know I was pregnant. I didn't dress like one, I didn't, I didn't even have the grace to act like one. I never had cravings because I cannot allow myself to have cravings. Who satisfied the cravings? When it was time to have my daughter, the third one, again I was induced. I went to the hospital by myself, delivered by myself and I called him August 1st, 1:30 a.m. after I had my daughter. I had her at 12:47 and I said she's here. He says we're done. I said we're done, sir. So I knew in my heart of hearts that it was over. At this point he was still in Asaba or he was at home? He was, he was, he was around when I had her. He was in Lagos when I had her. I left him at home with the other kids and I went to the hospital. He never, he's never proactive like oh no let's do this. I have to tell him what to do, when to do it and how to do it. There was never, because a normal man would be like what's that? We are going to the hospital together. The children, they will be fine. Leave them with neighbor or let's all go. Go on your own. That was what I knew, you know? Before a woman leaves you, or before a woman decides to leave, it is not the day she tells you she's leaving that she has already decided.