You don’t hate them

@patsmemoir

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Why it worked

The video taps into a universal feeling of self-doubt and the pain of compromising one's identity for external validation, resonating with viewers who have experienced similar emotional struggles.

Summary

The speaker reflects on self-hatred stemming from compromising oneself to be loved by others. They describe the pain of realizing one's own choices and compromises led to losing oneself, and how anger is often directed at oneself for allowing such situations.

Structure

1Hating who you became trying to be loved
2Hating how you compromised yourself
3Ignoring your own pain to keep the peace
4Realizing you lost yourself by choosing others
5Anger directed at self for allowing it

On-screen text

Family means you will love and be loved for the rest of your life no matter what LOVED BY you hate how small you how much you over explained how many times you ignored your own pain just to keep the peace kept choosing them while slowly losing yourself and that's the part because sometimes the anger what they did it's about what you allowed while hoping they would change

Original caption

You don’t hate them you hate what they made you become #mindset #Love #relationships #motivation

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Transcript

You don’t hate them you hate what they made you become You hate who you became trying to be loved by them You hate how small you how much you over explained how many times you ignored your own pain just to keep the peace You hate that you kept choosing them while slowly losing yourself and that's the part that hurts because sometimes the anger what they did it's about what you allowed while hoping they would change