Conversations You Should Have Before Having a Baby

1. Why do we want to have a child? 2. How will we split parenting responsibilities? 3. Who will wake up at night with the baby? 4. How will we handle our finances? 5. Can we afford a baby right now? 6. What parenting style do we believe in? 7. How do we want to discipline our child? 8. What values do we want to teach? 9. How will we balance work and family? 10. What are our career goals after the baby? 11. Who will stay home if the baby gets sick? 12. How involved will our families be? 13. Where do we want to raise our child? 14. Do we want more than one child? 15. How will we make time for our relationship? 16. How do we handle conflict? 17. What happens if we disagree about parenting? 18. What are our expectations as parents? 19. How will we support each other’s mental health? 20. How will we divide household chores? 21. What are our beliefs about education? 22. How will we manage screen time? 23. What are our thoughts on religion or spirituality? 24. How will we celebrate holidays and traditions? 25. What does a healthy family look like to us? 26. How will we teach respect and kindness? 27. What boundaries will we set with other people? 28. How will we handle stress together? 29. What happens if one of us loses a job? 30. How will we make important decisions? 31. How will we communicate when we’re overwhelmed? 32. What kind of support system do we have? 33. How will we keep intimacy alive? 34. What are our expectations about childcare? 35. How will we prepare for emergencies? 36. What habits do we want our child to learn? 37. How will we apologize and repair after mistakes? 38. What kind of home environment do we want to create? 39. What fears do we have about becoming parents? 40. Are we both truly ready for this responsibility?