so you're telling me if my partner took care of

so you're telling me if my partner took care of paid my school fees at some point paid my school fees at some point he's going he's going through some kind of situation that is a bit shaky for him and I decided and I decided to take care of my partner I'm all of a sudden being male centered if I'm picking my partner over a relationship of maybe a year or less than a year I'm being male centered if I decide to provide for this partner and house this partner I'm being male centered and I need to decenter if your heart is not strong g a caraka the internet will freaking ruin your life and give you peck on the head cause tell me why if I turn the center man the center your family we're losing the plot when it has to do with the centering and let me and let me explain how being male centered when your life revolves around a man or male approval it is like when you abandon friendship friendship desire just to keep a man it is like when being chosen becomes more important than choosing yourself simply simply means not to make a man the source of your identity your happiness or your life decisions that is what it means to decenter that is what it means to decenter a man so decentering a man does not mean you cannot love care provide and help out somebody that you genuinely want to help out cause sometimes cause sometimes the internet takes a genuine message and turns it into something and then all women start women start shitting other women for genuinely caring for their partner and they tell you that you're being male centered I have when it has to do with my friendship and relationship and it goes both ways and none of them should be crossed telling me that if I have a boundary as your friend and you cross that boundary in my relationship I should not deal with it accordingly if you are insulting you're degrading the person that I chose that is so freaking it's usually the same thing as when people it's not like you have to abandon your family or disrespect it's just making sure that you're not allowing family expectation guilt and the likes get to you when you're trying to achieve your life's or your goals or what you really want in your life I feel like I just did my entire night routine backwards cause I've been all in all in don't let the don't let the internet turn something that is into something toxic and I'm glad and I'm glad the babe actually picks the right side because imagine imagine somebody storing that whole thing inside for oh my god good night you and I hope you guys sleep well and don't forget and don't forget to decenter