The people who are better at money than you are aren't better at math, they're better at managing their emotions.

The people who are better at money than you are aren't better at math, they're better at managing their emotions. Let me explain to you. Money is a game of emotional regulation, nothing else. Like the spreadsheet is easy. It's addition, subtraction, a little bit of multiplication and division. It's very basic stuff that you are very capable of doing. If you're managing and regulating your emotions. If your emotions are unregulated and heightened, it actually takes blood away from the front of your brain, your prefrontal cortex, which is the part of your brain in charge of doing math, and it brings it to the amygdala, which is the fight or flight center of the brain. It's the emotionally reactive part of your brain. You cannot do math when you're in your amygdala, and money is a very emotionally triggering thing for most people. So what I've learned is I have had to separate my emotional experience from my objective reality. Like subjective versus objective reality. And let me explain the difference. Objective reality is the facts. Like this water bottle is green. It has four stickers on it. That is objective reality. Subjective reality would be like this water bottle's ugly or this water bottle is cute. That is a subjective description of the water bottle. We do this all the time with our money. I'm bad with money is subjective. Or like I'm going to be fucked. That is a subjective observation of your financial situation. If you say I have $42 in my bank account and I have $53 of bills due in the next week and I don't get paid until after that, that's objective reality. But we tie emotions to it and say I'm bad with money. This is because my parents never taught me. The government needs to do X, Y and Z, right? Like then we when we mix the two, that's when managing money becomes hard. So if we're actually able to separate our subjective experience and our objective experience, that's when we're actually able to take control of our finances.