YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY WITH A BROKE MAN

@bxpica55o

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Why it worked

The video uses a highly relatable and emotionally charged topic (the struggles of modern men) to build immediate rapport. By validating the pain of his audience while simultaneously challenging them to take personal responsibility, the creator fosters a sense of community and authority that encourages high engagement.

Summary

The creator discusses the immense societal pressure on modern men to be successful and wealthy, arguing that this pressure leads to mental health struggles and destructive behaviors. He emphasizes the need for men to focus on genuine self-improvement and discipline rather than falling into the traps of fake lifestyles or desperation.

Structure

1Introduction to the viral video about broke men
2Analysis of the societal pressure on men to be providers
3The negative consequences of this pressure (mental health, crime, addiction)
4Distinction between laziness and struggling due to life circumstances
5Call to action for men to focus on real self-improvement and discipline

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YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY WITH A BROKE MAN I SAW A VIDEO TODAY THAT ALMOST MADE ME APPLY FOR OVERTIME. EMOTIONALLY, THIS WOMAN SAID, YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY WITH A BROKE MAN. YOH, YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY WITH A BROKE MAN. IN THE COMMENTS, WOMEN WERE AGREEING LIKE THEY WERE VOTING FOR ELECTRICITY TO COME BACK. LOVE DOESN'T PAY BILLS. NEVER AGAIN. I NEED STABILITY, I SAID. AAH. SO FEELINGS NEED FUNDING THESE DAYS. AND HONESTLY, THAT VIDEO EXPLAINS WHY MODERN MEN ARE MENTALLY FINISHED. BECAUSE MEN TODAY ARE UNDER PRESSURE FROM EVERY DIRECTION. YOU MUST BE RICH, YOU MUST BE FIT, YOU MUST BE EMOTIONALLY STRONG. YOU MUST BE SUCCESSFUL, CONFIDENT, CALM, PROVIDER, LEADER FROM AS YOUNG AS 24. MEANWHILE, PETROL IS FIGHTING US, RENT IS FIGHTING US, THE ECONOMY IS FIGHTING US. AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS REPOSTING SOFT LIFE VIDEOS EVERY THREE MINUTES. BUT BAFETHU, SOME MEN ARE NOT EVEN LIVING ANYMORE. THEY'RE SURVIVING QUIETLY. AND THIS IS WHERE THE CONVERSATION GETS SERIOUS, BECAUSE A LOT OF MEN ARE NOT LOCKING IN. THEY'RE ESCAPING. THERE'S A DIFFERENCE. SOME GUYS ARE DROWNING IN ALCOHOL. SOME ARE ADDICTED TO DRUGS. SOME ARE GAMBLING AWAY STRESS. SOME ARE DEPRESSED IN SILENCE. SOME ARE BECOMING ANGRY AT THE WORLD. SOME MEN ARE ENTERING FRAUD AND CRIME BECAUSE THEY FEEL LEFT BEHIND. BECAUSE WHEN A MAN STARTS BELIEVING, I ONLY MATTER WHEN I HAVE MONEY, DESPERATION ENTERS THE ROOM. AND DESPERATION IS DANGEROUS. THAT'S WHERE YOU GET YOUNG MEN RISKING PRISON FOR QUICK CASH THAT'S HOW YOU GET DEPRESSION HIDDEN BEHIND DESIGNER CLOTHES. THAT'S HOW YOU GET MEN LAUGHING LOUDLY IN PUBLIC THEN CRYING ALONE AT NIGHT. AND SOCIAL MEDIA MAKES IT WORSE. EVERYBODY ONLINE LOOKS RICH. EVERYBODY IS WINNING. EVERY COUPLE IS IN DUBAI, HA HA HA. EVERY GUY HAS A GERMAN CAR AND A PODCAST MIC. MEANWHILE, SOME BROTHERS ARE ONE UNPAID DEBIT ORDER AWAY FROM EMOTIONAL COLLAPSE. AND LET ME SAY SOMETHING CONTROVERSIAL. SOME WOMEN ONLINE SPEAK ABOUT BROKE MEN WITH PURE UNRESOLVED TRAUMA. YOU CAN HEAR THE FATHER ISSUES INSIDE THE SENTENCE. EVERY STRUGGLING MAN GETS ATTACKED BECAUSE SOMEBODY'S UH FATHER DIDN'T LOCK IN. THAT DOES NOT MEAN WOMEN MUST TOLERATE LAZY MEN. NO, A MAN MUST HAVE AMBITION, PURPOSE, DIRECTION, DISCIPLINE. BUT THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN I WANT A RESPONSIBLE MAN AND A STRUGGLING MAN DESERVES NO LOVE. THOSE ARE TWO DIFFERENT CONVERSATIONS BECAUSE LIFE CAN HUMBLE ANYBODY. ONE BUSINESS FAILURE, ONE RETRENCHMENT, ONE SICKNESS, ONE BAD YEAR AND SUDDENLY YOU ARE THE BROKE MAN PEOPLE WERE MOCKING ONLINE. THAT'S WHY MEN NEED TO LOCK IN FOR REAL NOW. NOT FAKE INSTAGRAM LOCKING IN, REAL LOCKING IN. LEARN SKILLS, FIX YOUR MINDSET. HEAL PROPERLY. STOP NORMALISING SELF DESTRUCTION. STOP WORSHIPPING QUICK MONEY. STOP THINKING CRIME IS SUCCESS. STOP POISONING YOURSELF EVERY WEEKEND. THEN CALLING IT STRESS RELIEF BECAUSE BAFETHU, THE STREETS ARE NOT JUST COLD ANYMORE. THE STREETS ARE RECRUITING BROKEN MEN. AND IF YOU DON'T BUILD DISCIPLINE NOW, THE WORLD WILL HAPPILY SELL YOU DISTRACTIONS INSTEAD. ALCOHOL, FRAUD, DRUGS, VALIDATION TEMPORARY PLEASURE, FAKE LIFESTYLES, EVERYTHING EXCEPT PEACE. AND THE SADDEST PART, SOME MEN ARE NOT CHASING WEALTH ANYMORE. THEY'RE CHASING PROOF THAT THEY EXIST. YOH.

Original caption

That video hit harder than people realize. A lot of men today don’t feel loved… they feel evaluated. And when a man starts believing his value only exists through money, desperation enters the room. That’s why some men are depressed. Some disappear. Some abuse drugs. Some enter fraud and crime trying to “catch up.” Some are working themselves into emotional exhaustion. This generation of men is under pressure from every angle. Yes men need to lock in. But not fake social media “alpha male” locking in. Real locking in means: • healing properly • building discipline • learning skills • escaping survival mode legally • protecting your mental health • rejecting self-destruction Because some men are not chasing luxury anymore… they’re chasing proof they deserve to exist. The streets are cold bafethu 💔 #women #relationships #itsbx #southafrica

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Transcript

I saw a video today that almost made me apply for overtime emotionally. This woman said, you will never be happy with a broke man. Yoh, you will never be happy with a broke man. And in the comments, women were agreeing like they were voting for electricity to come back. Love doesn't pay bills. Never again. I need stability, I said. Aah. So feelings need funding these days. And honestly, that video explains why modern men are mentally finished. Because men today are under pressure from every direction. You must be rich, you must be fit, you must be emotionally strong. You must be successful, confident, calm, provider, leader from as young as 24. Meanwhile, petrol is fighting us, rent is fighting us, the economy is fighting us. And your girlfriend is reposting soft life videos every three minutes. But bafethu, some men are not even living anymore. They're surviving quietly. And this is where the conversation gets serious, because a lot of men are not locking in. They're escaping. There's a difference. Some guys are drowning in alcohol. Some are addicted to drugs. Some are gambling away stress. Some are depressed in silence. Some are becoming angry at the world. Some men are entering fraud and crime because they feel left behind. Because when a man starts believing, I only matter when I have money, desperation enters the room. And desperation is dangerous. That's where you get young men risking prison for quick cash. That's how you get depression hidden behind designer clothes. That's how you get men laughing loudly in public then crying alone at night. And social media makes it worse. Everybody online looks rich. Everybody is winning. Every couple is in Dubai. Every guy has a German car and a podcast mic. Meanwhile, some brothers are one unpaid debit order away from emotional collapse. And let me say something controversial. Some women online speak about broke men with pure unresolved trauma. You can hear the father issues inside the sentence. Every struggling man gets attacked because somebody's father didn't lock in. That does not mean women must tolerate lazy men. No, a man must have ambition, purpose, direction, discipline. But there's a difference between I want a responsible man and a struggling man deserves no love. Those are two different conversations because life can humble anybody. One business failure, one retrenchment, one sickness, one bad year and suddenly you are the broke man people were mocking online. That's why men need to lock in for real now. Not fake Instagram locking in, real locking in. Learn skills, fix your mindset. Heal properly. Stop normalising self destruction. Stop worshipping quick money. Stop thinking crime is success. Stop poisoning yourself every weekend. Then calling it stress relief. Because bafethu, the streets are not just cold anymore. The streets are recruiting broken men. And if you don't build discipline now, the world will happily sell you distractions instead. Alcohol, fraud, drugs, validation, temporary pleasure, fake lifestyles, everything except peace. And the saddest part, some men are not chasing wealth anymore. They're chasing proof that they exist. Yoh.