The hidden truth about overwhelmed moms

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The video resonated by sharing a deeply personal and relatable struggle of motherhood, reframing overwhelm not as a personal failing but as a consequence of neglecting self-care and the body's need for recovery. The raw honesty and vulnerability created a strong emotional connection with the audience.

Summary

The speaker, a mother, reflects on her past struggles with overwhelm, realizing she was asking herself the wrong questions and blaming herself. She shares her personal story of dealing with her son's epilepsy and working as a 911 dispatcher, which led her to neglect her own needs and stay in survival mode. She now understands that consistently pushing through without allowing for recovery keeps the nervous system stuck, preventing mothers from truly living and being present.

Structure

1Introduction to the struggle of overwhelmed moms
2Realization of asking the wrong questions and self-blame
3Personal story: son's epilepsy and demanding job
4Neglecting self-care and staying in survival mode
5The impact of chronic stress on the nervous system
6The importance of allowing the nervous system to reset

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The hidden truth about overwhelmed moms MOM AND YOU ARE CONSTANTLY OVERWHELMED, BECAUSE I REALLY WISH SOMEONE WOULD TELL ME THIS LIKE 10 YEARS AGO. I KEPT ASKING MYSLEF THE WRONG QUESTIONS. I KEPT THINKING I KEPT THINKING LIKE, WHY CAN'T I HANDLE MOTHERHOOD LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE? WHY CAN'T I WHY CAN'T I LIKE I'M FAILING? FEEL LIKE I'M A BAD MOM? THINK MAYBE I HAVE A BETTER ROUTINE. TO BE MORE STRUCTURE. YOU KNOW, MAYBE BE MORE GRATEFUL FOR BEING A MOM. ASKING MYSELF THE WRONG QUESTION. THE QUESTIONS I ASKING IS WHAT HAS IT, WHAT HAS LIFE OR WHAT HAS THINGS IN MY LIFE DONE TO ME PERSONALLY? BECAUSE I HAD A SON WHO BRAIN SURGERY BECAUSE HE HAD EPILEPSY AND HIS EPILEPSY WASNT CONTROLLED SO HE WAS SEIZING EVERYDAY. A TODDLER. I WAS ALSO WORKING 11 DISPATCHER. SO I JUST THOUGHT I HAD TO KEEP PUSHING THROUGH AND PUSHING THROUGH AND PUSHING THROUGH AND COMPLETELY HAD NOTHING LEFT FOR ME AT THE END OF THE DAY. I NEVER GAVE MYSLEF A TIME AND A CHANCE, MY BODY, MY NERVOUS SYSTEM TO RECOVER. I JUST THOUGHT YOU JUST KEEP GOING. DO. YOU SACRIFICE YOURSELF FOR YOUR FAMILY AND FOR YOUR KIDS BECAUSE I FELT LIKE I CHOICE LIKE IF WHAT ELSE AM I GONNA DO? IGNORED THE EXHAUSTION FACT THAT I STARTED TO FEEL EMOTIONALLY NUMB I IGNORED THE HAD EMOTIONAL DETACHMENT I IGNORED THE FACT THAT I ON AUTOPILOT AND JUST SURVIVING MY DAY AND NOT TRULY LIVING LIFE AND BEING PRESENT WITH NOW LOOKING BACK ON IT I REALISED THAT IT WASNT STRESS ALONE IT WASNT TRAUMA ALONE THAT YOU OWN KEPT ME STUCK IN SURVIVAL MODE FACT THAT I KEPT IGNORING ME THAT I IGNORED EVERYTHING ABOUT THE FACT THAT I NEEDED ALSO HELP I NEEDED TO TAKE CARE OF ME AND ALLOW MY BRAIN MY NERVOUS SYSTEM TO HAVE THAT CALM RESET BECAUSE THERE IS STRESS THERE'S GOING TO BE TRAUMA LIFE HAPPENS AND YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM NEEDS THE RESET BUT WHEN AS KEEP PUSHING THROUGH AND PUSHING THROUGH YOU NEVER GET A CHANCE TO RESET MODE JUST BECOMES YOUR NORMAL LIKE IT'S YOU IMAGINE HOW LIFE WOULD BE SO DIFFERENT IF YOU STOP WERE THE PROBLEM AND THAT YOU SOMETHING ABOUT YOU?

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For a long time, I thought I was just bad at handling motherhood. I blamed myself for feeling overwhelmed all the time. I blamed myself for constantly rushing. I blamed myself for never being able to relax, even when I finally had a few minutes to sit down. What I didn’t realize was that chronic stress can keep your brain and nervous system stuck in survival mode if you never get the chance to recover. That’s why so many moms feel like they’re just surviving instead of actually living. It’s why so many moms say: * “I don’t feel like myself anymore.” * “I’m emotionally exhausted.” * “I can’t switch my brain off.” * “I’m always waiting for the next thing to go wrong.” If you’ve ever searched: “Why am I always overwhelmed?” or “Why do I feel like I’m just surviving?” You’re not alone. Understanding what was happening was the first step that changed everything for me.#overwhelmedmom #survivalmode #survivalmodeisnotmotherhood #mentalload #momburnout

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If you're a mom and you are constantly overwhelmed, because I really wish someone would tell me this like 10 years ago. I kept asking myself the wrong questions. I kept thinking, I kept thinking like, why can't I handle motherhood like everybody else? Why can't I, why can't I feel like I'm failing? Feel like I'm a bad mom? Think maybe I have a better routine, to be more structure. You know, maybe be more grateful for being a mom. But I was asking myself the wrong question. The questions I was asking is what has it, what has life or what has things in my life done to me personally? Because I had a son who brain surgery because he had epilepsy and his epilepsy wasn't controlled. So he was seizing everyday. A toddler. I was also working 11 dispatcher. So I just thought I had to keep pushing through and pushing through and pushing through and completely had nothing left for me at the end of the day. I never gave myself a time and a chance, my body, my nervous system to recover. I just thought you just keep going. Do. You sacrifice yourself for your family and for your kids because I felt like I choice, like if what else am I gonna do? Ignored the exhaustion, fact that I started to feel emotionally numb. I ignored the had emotional detachment. I ignored the fact that I on autopilot and just surviving my day and not truly living life and being present with. Now looking back on it, I realized that it wasn't stress alone. It wasn't trauma alone that you own kept me stuck in survival mode. Fact that I kept ignoring me. That I ignored everything about the fact that I needed also help. I needed to take care of me and allow my brain, my nervous system to have that calm reset. Because there is stress, there's going to be trauma. Life happens and your nervous system needs the reset. But when as keep pushing through and pushing through, you never get a chance to reset. Mode just becomes your normal. Like it's you. So it doesn't feel like you're surviving anymore. Like it's you. So can you imagine how life would be so different if you stop were the problem and that you something about you?