这个人呢在YouTube上

这个人呢在YouTube上 spent learning lessons that could 分钟。 本体可以在几分钟内学会的道理，却不 悟。 分享了他到了35岁 才明白的几个真相 many years spent discovering what a 花数十年 时间才能明白那些人 spend decades discovering what a many people may have to rely on for decades 才能领悟到的教训 其实今天我们几分钟 with perhaps the most fundamental 就能讲清楚 moment when a single insight makes you 我把它拆解成5条真相 unnecessary. single insight 就好象我们都在玩同一个游戏 每一条都可以短时间内做到 It's like we're all playing the same game 却能对你的人生 produce a significant impact. 产生重大的影响 instruction manual while the rest of us 使用说明书，而我们其他人则不得不通过反复的尝 试。 第一 个真相 环境比意志力强100倍 Environment trumps willpower every single time. 不要总觉得 自己就能硬扛 they try to implement change through willpower. 他们试图仅凭意志力来推动变革。 就像是一块容易累的肌肉 this is like trying to drive a car by pushing it. 这好比试图通过推汽车来让它前进一样。 你用多了 the true smart person 真正的聪明人 就会废。 是会去设计环境 然后让一切自然发生 design trumps willpower every single time. 环境设计永远比意志力更有效。 然后让一切自然发生 你比如不想睡前看手机 think about it. 那就把它放到隔壁房间 It's not motivational, it's mathematical. 不是激励人的话，纯粹是数学上的计算而已。 想好好看书 那就 在桌上只放一本书 want to exercise 想要运动 穿上跑鞋直接出门 and your environment is consistent. 是稳定且始终 present. 很多人成功的秘诀 Many people you admire aren't necessarily more disci 不是他更有毅力 成功人士，未必就比别人更有自律性。 只是他们更擅长设计环境 只是他们更擅长设计环境 that make success the path of least 创造了那些能让成功变得轻而易举的机制。 当好习惯变成顺手的事 when good habits become second nature 你就赢了 you win. 好状态是一个生锈的水龙头 Good state is a rusty faucet. 这句话我真的特别特别喜欢 He said many people have a state phobia 他说呢很多人都有状态洁癖 (like me 😅) (比如我😅) they have to wait until they feel good 他非要等到心情好了 state is perfect 状态完美了 then start. 才肯开始。 But the truth is 但真相是 We're funny creatures. 我们都是些有趣的人罢了。 whether it's inspiration or state 不管是 灵感还是状态 when you just opened it 你刚打开的时候 It's like mastering Excel, but won't spend 20 minutes 精通Excel的使用，却不愿意花20分钟 thinking patterns. 来精通Excel的使用，却不愿意花20分钟 都是脏兮兮的臭水 are dirty, smelly water. 你得先允许自己 you have to allow yourself first 把脏水排干净了 to drain the dirty water. 让水流动起来 let the water flow. 流着流着 flowing 清澈的灵感和状态也就出来了 clear inspiration and state will emerge. 不要去管昨晚有没有熬夜 Don't care if you stayed up late last night 今天呢是不是心情不好 whether you're in a bad mood today 跟人吵架 arguing with someone 你先打开水龙头 first turn on the faucet 动起来再说 and then talk. 这条我实现多次了 I've implemented this many times. 治疗重度拖延症 Treating severe procrastination 简直是王炸 It's simply a game-changer. 第三个真相 是关于人际关系 He said 他说呢 relationship problems stem from a simple real-world reason. 感情问题都源于一个简单的现实原因。 吵架的潜台词其实是委屈 The subtext of an argument is actually grievance. unstated expectations. 未明言的期望/没有说出口的期待。 吵的根本就不是那件事 It's not about that thing at all. 是那个憋了很久的委屈 It's that grievance that's been held for a long time. 很多关系其实都是这样 Many relationships are like this. about facts, but unstated emotional needs. 而是与那些未被明确表达的情感需求有关。 伴侣发火 partners get angry 不一定只是因为餐具本身 it's not necessarily just about the dishes. 父母唠叨呢 parents nag 也不一定是 一种控制 it's not necessarily a form of control. 所以最好的沟通 So the best communication 从来都不是争输赢 is never about winning or losing, The dishes are a proxy for deeper needs. 这些菜肴其实反映了人们更深层次的需 而是先看见对方心里的委屈 but to first see the grievance in the other person's heart. respect, contribution, appreciation. 尊重、贡献、感激。 下次如果有人跟你急 Next time someone gets angry with you, 先不要着急解释或者是还嘴 first don't rush to explain or retort. 有一句万能公式 There's a universal formula. 你是不是觉得我不够重视你 Do you feel I don't value you enough? 或者呢没看到你的感受 or didn't see your feelings? 尤其是亲人朋友之间啊 especially between family and friends. 对方的火气 the other person's anger 大概率就会消掉大半 will likely be more than halved. 其实呢被看见 Actually, being seen 是我们生存的一个最本能 is a primal instinct for our survival. 最强烈的需求 the strongest need. 这个观点呢 This perspective 我觉得马尔克·卢森堡的 I remember Marshall Rosenberg's 非暴力沟通里 in Nonviolent Communication 一切愤怒的背后 behind all anger 都是一个没有被满足的需要 is an unmet need. 这本书真的非常非常强 This book is really, really powerful. 推荐大家看看 I highly recommend everyone read it. touchy-feely wisdom practical reality 能让我们解开很多 can help us untangle many 人际关系中的心结 knots in relationships. 也减轻人生的很多痛苦 and reduce a lot of life's suffering. 第四个真相 读100本书 Read 100 books 不如彻底用好一本书 不如彻底用好一本书 value knowledge undervalue implementation 收藏夹里都是干货 脑子里却全是浆糊 Knowledge itself isn't worth much. It's the knowledge put into practice that's wisdom. 哪怕今天这个视频 Even if today this video 你只记住了 and you only remember 并且把它用到了生活当中 and apply it to your life 也比收藏了100个视频 is 100 times stronger than saving 100 videos. 要强100倍 第五个真相 “改天” "Tomorrow" 是这个世界上最骗人的词 is the most deceptive word in the world. “改天” "Tomorrow" 其实就是 is actually “永远不”的代名词 a synonym for "never". 它给你一种 It gives you a sense of “我还有的是时间”的错觉 that you have plenty of time. 时间不是可以无限续杯的咖啡 Time is not an infinitely refillable coffee. 它是一支正在融化的冰淇淋 It's a melting ice cream. 你吃或者不吃 Whether you eat it or not, 它都在融化 it's melting. 人这一辈子 In a lifetime, 平均下来也就3万天 it averages out to about 30,000 days. 如果你已经30岁 If you're already 30 years old, 你已经用掉了1万多天 you've already used over 10,000 days. 而且还是健康质量很高的1万天 and they were 10,000 high-quality days. 你苦苦等待的那个未来 That future you're desperately waiting for 其实就是正在指缝里溜走的 is actually slipping through the cracks. 现在 Now 这个呢就是越早知道 This is the sooner you know, 越少走弯路的 the fewer detours you'll take. 5个真相 听到这里 哪句最打动你 评论区打出来 我们行动起来