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If you watch Korean dramas like Weak Hero or Teach You a Lesson, you would notice that the bullied victims, they often stay silent. A lot of people think that they could handle Korean bullies, but if you lived in Korea, you would probably stay silent too. With your western brain, it's probably hard to comprehend to fight back, stand your ground, and if you don't, you're a pussy. But in Korean culture, there's two main factors that's preventing these kids from fighting back. Number one, the main advice a lot of adults give children in Korea is 'chama' (cham-ah), which means 'just endure it'. And endure. Number two, they don't want to get socially isolated. The main bullies are called 'iljin' (il-jhin), the popular bullies. They usually have really powerful and rich parents, really good looking, really good at sports, really good at singing. Could be any one of those. But they basically run the whole classroom, sometimes even the teachers. And if you stand up for yourself, you're basically getting in the way of the education for the other students and disrupting the flow of the class. "Hey, what about the bullies? Aren't they disrupting the class?" Yes, but like I said, they run the classroom. And a lot of these victims don't wanna be socially isolated, especially at that age. And in the Korean language, we call that 'wang-ddah' (wahng-ddah), socially isolated person, or in more modern terms, 'jjin-ddah' (jjhin-ddah), uncool loser. You might have noticed from Teach You a Lesson, the guy with the stick, that is what they want to avoid. It's much easier to stay silent, just take it and hopefully it passes by. Cause if you did fight for yourself, that hurts more emotionally. And I know this firsthand cause I fought for myself and the teachers joined in the kicking, would kick me and be like, "Why don't you just get up so that we could continue class?" And my parents also told me to just 'chama' because the teacher would call and say like, "I was disrupting the class." It's gonna feel like the whole world is against you. And when you're a kid, under 20 years old, it's just so much harder to not care about what the world thinks. So physical violence sucks and that heals over time, but emotional pain, that's life lasting. So let me ask you again, would you still fend for yourself and stand your ground, if and when the whole world is against you? Much harder question now.