Music Ruined the Dating Scene

Music Ruined the Dating Scene And I do blame the music from the early 2000s for today's current dating climate because the music during that time romanticized the independent woman but in two completely different ways. Let's start with this example. If you a independent woman holla. If you got your own house holla. If you drive your own car holla. If you hate your baby daddy holla. If you a independent player holla. Oh yeah. If you hate your baby mama holla. Oh yeah. If you drive your own car holla. If you take then your kids. Why did he have to ask the men if they hated the baby mama first and took care of the kids last? He could have kept the same two options for both sides, but he didn't. And you're probably like, India, that's just, you know, a musical decision. Okay, great. Let's look at other musical choices. In independent. Do you know what that baby phat means? Baby phat just relax. Front your own flat screen. Back rubs, cook clean and don't make them make a scene. And an independent. Do you know what that mean? She cook, she clean, she never smell like onion rings. So she got two jobs, she cook, she clean, she don't smell like onion rings. But wait, there's more. She got her own thing. That's why I love her. She got her own thing. That's why I love her. Miss independent, Nia repeats the same lyrics over and over again, but he does say she got her own and that leads you to this song. Don't slow it down cause she ain't got time to be complaining. Shawty gone shine. She don't expect nothing. She don't look at me like Captain Save him. Save him. Gold digging? No, she don't do that. So that's what the men are singing. But the women that are singing about women being independent are singing something totally different. Only ring your story when I'm feeling lonely. When it's all over, please get up and question. Question. Tell me how you feel about this. Try to control me, boy, you get dismissed. You want a hot body? You want a Bugatti? You want a Maserati? You better work bitch cause it makes me that much stronger. Makes me work a little bit harder. Makes me that much wiser. That's making me a fighter. When I think I'm with you, you take it wrong now. Number one, I don't need you. Your name is Q, I only see you when I see you. Listen. Two, you can never play me cause I'm such a fucking lady. It's just so interesting that all the women songs are telling other women to make your own money, so you can deal with men when you want. You don't have to be controlled and you can buy yourself nice things. But the men are telling other men that independent women are going to be making their own money, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, rubbing your back and never complaining about it. This is the music we listened to growing up. So obviously, there's going to be a mismatch when it comes to dating expectations between genders.