just because seven men like your story doesn't mean seven men want to date you or care about you or even like you. It means that seven men saw you and we're like, oh, she's hot or oh, I'd hit. And so he threw you a bone. But I'm telling you these men throw out ten bones a day. You are not the only story like. Your desperation to be chosen and feel special is making you very easy to manipulate. It is not a man's job to complete you or make your life make sense. And if you believe a man is coming to save you, you will say whatever they think they need to say in the moment in order to get what you want from you, which nine times out of ten is access to your body. Nothing from men is really free, okay? If he's buying you drinks at a bar, if he's inviting you into the section, he's doing it not to give you good time, but to get access to you. If that's a game you want to play, you can play that game. I personally don't feel comfortable doing that. If he keeps liking other girls' posts after you told him you don't want him to, or following other women or watching certain stuff online, he does not respect you, okay? And I would argue he doesn't love you. And the more you tolerate, the more you let him get away with, the less he's going to respect you. Because if you can't respect yourself enough to leave or respect yourself enough to hold firm on your boundaries, why would he respect you? The whole possessive thing, the whole like, I don't want you to wear that, I don't want you to post that, is not cute. And it is nine times out of ten rooted in control and insecurity. A lot of y'all are just falling for it because you really want to feel desired and you want to feel special. Here's the thing. If a man really does value modesty and he wants his girlfriend or wife to dress a certain way or post a certain way, his goal should not be to define a woman who will listen to him and wants to be modest for herself or for her religion, not for him. So if that's an argument in your relationship, you clearly don't have the same values and maybe you're not a good match for each other. This is kind of going back to the first one, but lustful attention from men really is worthless. At a certain point in my social media journey, I had a lot of male followers and it literally added nothing to my life. No one was actually investing into me. I was just getting a lot of cheap attention. It's a good sign if he's kind of timid around you or like scared to push your boundaries. And if he's pushing your boundaries, especially when it comes to physical intimacy, once again, that man does not respect you. It goes from men and women, really all humans, we tend to value things more the harder we had to work for them. So don't feel bad making him work for it. And if he backs out early, he was never wanting anything serious to begin with. Let you guys all, bye.
