the worst mistake guys make in the talking stage

The biggest mistake men make in the talking stage and I see this a lot that they will try to act so like nonchalant and mysterious. Like literally stop. Women love a chalant man. Like they know that this man is confident, can be like goofy and like outgoing and like in the effort. Like acting nonchalant and mysterious just doesn't work anymore. When my boyfriend and I were literally talking, like he was so nonchalant and he would like do these fun like goofy things, videos on Cantina, brain rot ones, sending them. I need a man that's gonna make jokes, really put in the effort, want to talk to me, send me fun things that make me think of him, you know? Like, we need to stop the nonchalant men phase.