Psychology of People Who Can’t Throw Anything Away

Psychology of People Who Can’t Throw Anything Away HERE'S SOMETHING REALLY STOP TO THINK ABOUT YOU HAVE A DRAWER MAYBE MORE THAN ONE NEVER USED AGAIN FULL OF THINGS YOU'LL NEVER USE AGAIN AN OLD CHARGER A OLD CHARGER TICKET STUB A TICKET STUB A SHIRT THAT DOESN'T FIT THROW IT AWAY YOU KNOW YOU SHOULD THROW IT AWAY BUT YOU DON'T SOMETHING STOPS YOU EVERY SINGLE TIME SO WHAT IS ACTUALLY GOING ON SOMEONE WHO CAN'T THROW ANYTHING AWAY? AWAY BECAUSE THE ANSWER MIGHT COMPLETELY CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT LETTING GO ITSELF Letting Go HERE'S A QUICK DEAL IF YOU WANT MORE CONTENT LIKE THIS THAT BREAKS DOWN REAL HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY AND HELPS YOU UNDERSTAND YOURSELF AND THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU MAKE SURE YOU FOLLOW HIT THE LIKE BUTTON AND DROP A COMMENT SAYING INTERESTING SO I KNOW THIS IS REACHING THE RIGHT PEOPLE NOW LET'S GET STRAIGHT INTO IT LET'S START WITH WHAT MOST PEOPLE GET WRONG MESSY THEY THINK THIS IS ABOUT BEING MESSY LAZY OR LAZY OR DISORGANIZED DISORGANIZED IT'S NOT PSYCHOLOGISTS RANDY FROST AND GAIL STECKLEY SPENT DECADES STUDYING THIS AND WHAT THEY FOUND HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH LAZINESS IT HAD TO DO WITH MEANING EVERY OBJECT WAS TANGLED UP WITH MEMORY IDENTITY IDENTITY OR POSSIBILITY POSSIBILITY THROWING IT AWAY DIDN'T FEEL LIKE TIDYING IT FELT LIKE LOSING A PIECE OF YOURSELF Three Patterns HERE ARE THREE PATTERNS THAT CONSISTENTLY SHOW UP IN PEOPLE WHO CAN'T THROW ANYTHING AWAY who can't throw anything away THE FIRST IS OBJECT ATTACHMENT JUST A THING TO YOU THAT ITEM ISN'T JUST A THING IT'S A MEMORY HOLDER A VERSION OF A MOMENT YOU'RE SCARED TO LOSE GETTING LIKE ERASING SOMETHING THAT ACTUALLY HAPPENED Future Utility Bias THE SECOND IS FUTURE UTILITY BIAS YOUR BRAIN KEEPS INSISTING YOU MIGHT NEED THIS SOMEDAY PSYCHOLOGISTS CALL THIS A COGNITIVE DISTORTION FUTURE USEFULNESS PRESENT COST IT OVERESTIMATES FUTURE USEFULNESS AND COMPLETELY IGNORES PRESENT COST SO THE ITEM STAYS JUST IN CASE JUST IN CASE Loss Aversion THE THIRD IS LOSS AVERSION BEHAVIORAL ECONOMIST DANIEL KHANEMAN PROVED THAT LOSING SOMETHING HURTS LOSS GAIN ALMOST TWICE AS MUCH AS GAINING SOMETHING HELPS SO EVEN A BROKEN USELESS OBJECT FEELS SAFER TO KEEP FEELS SAFER TO KEEP THAN TO LOSE YOUR BRAIN ISN'T BEING IRRATIONAL IT'S JUST PROTECTING YOU FROM A FEELING IT HATES AND MAYBE THAT IS THE MOST THOUGHT PROVOKING INSIGHT THE MOST THOUGHT PROVOKING INSIGHT OF ALL YOU WERE NEVER REALLY HOLDING ON TO STUFF YOU WERE HOLDING ON TO MOMENTS ONTO IDENTITIES ONTO VERSIONS OF YOURSELF YOU WEREN'T READY TO LET GO OF THE CLUTTER WAS NEVER THE OBJECT REALLY ABOUT THE OBJECT IT WAS ABOUT WHAT LETING GO MIGHT MEAN LETING GO MIGHT MEAN DROP A COMMENT BELOW WHAT'S THE ONE THING YOU CAN'T SEEM TO THROW AWAY? THROW AWAY I READ EVERY SINGLE ONE SEE YOU IN ONE SEE YOU IN