An Old Man Married For 47 Years Told Me:

He smiled and said, Because by the time she's apologizing... she's usually been carrying the hurt much longer than you realize. I asked him what he meant. He leaned back and said, 1. Most women don't bring things up the first time they get hurt. They wait. They hope you'll notice. They tell themselves you're just stressed or distracted. By the time they finally say something, they've usually replayed it in their head a hundred times. 2. If she's the one saying sorry after that... There's a good chance she's apologizing just to end the distance, not because she believes she was wrong. He paused. And that's a dangerous habit for a marriage. Pride is expensive. The happiest husbands I know aren't the ones who are right most often. They're the ones who notice they've hurt the person they love before it turns into a competition. 4. Apologizing first isn't about taking all the blame. It's about telling your partner, 'Us matters more to me than my ego. He smiled again. I've said sorry for things that weren't entirely my fault. So has she. That's how two people stop small problems from becoming permanent ones. 5. Then he gave me one last piece of advice. If you're secretly waiting for your wife to be the first one to fix the distance... You're already protecting your pride more than your marriage. I've thought about that conversation many times. The strongest marriages aren't built by two people who never hurt each other. They're built by two people who care more about finding each other again than proving who should've apologized first. #deepthoughts #phycologyfacts #relationships #fyp #knowledgesharing