Be Careful With Someone Who Learned No Contact with family

Be Careful With Someone Who Learned No Contact with family BE VERY CAREFUL HOW YOU TREAT SOMEONE LEARN HOW TO CONTACT WITH THEIR OWN FAMILY. WITH SOMEBODY WHO HAD TO DEVELOP THE CAPACITY TO LEAVE PEOPLE WHO WERE BIOLOGICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, CULTURALLY CONDITIONED TO NEVER LEAVE THEM. DO YOU UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH PAIN IT TAKES FOR SOMEBODY TO FINALLY SAY, I LOVE YOU BUT I CAN'T KEEP ABANDONING MYSELF TO HAVE ACCESS TO YOU, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S YOUR MOTHER, YOUR FATHER OR YOUR SIBLINGS, PEOPLE WHO WERE SUPPOSED TO BE HOME. GOING NO CONTACT WITH FAMILY ISN'T ALWAYS SOME CALL HEARTLESS DECISION. SOMETIMES IT COMES AFTER YEARS OF EXPLAINING, FORGIVING, UNDERSTANDING EVERYBODY'S TRAUMA, BEING THE BIGGER PERSON, TRYING DIFFERENT BOUNDARIES, GIVING ANOTHER CHANCE AND STILL GRIPPING THE PEOPLE WHO ARE LITERALLY STILL HERE. SO WHEN THAT PERSON FINALLY LEARNS HOW TO CHOOSE THEMSELVES, SOMETHING CHANGES. CAUSE THE GRIEF FROM SEPARATING FROM YOU THOUGHT YOU COULDN'T LIVE WITHOUT, YOU REALISE THAT SURVIVE LOSING ANYBODY. AND THAT IS PEOPLE UNDERESTIMATE. YOU CANNOT THREATEN A HEAL CYCLE BREAKER WITH YOUR ABSENCE. THEM TRAPPED WITH HISTORY. YOU CANNOT CONTINUE DISRESPECTING THEM AND ASSUME THE LOVE IS GOING TO MAKE THEM STAY. LISTEN, THEY ALREADY LEARNED THE HARDEST VERSION OF THE LESSON. I CAN LOVE YOU SO DEEPLY AND STILL CHOOSE TO LIVE A LIFE HAVE NO ACCESS TO. THERE IS NOT BITTERNESS. THAT'S WHAT HAPPENS WHEN LOVE FINALLY STOPS. REQUIRE YOU TO ABANDON YOURSELF OR ANYBODY.