Post by @jamienotis

It’s so hard to know what is real fromwhat’s polished these days. It’s sad bc we go online & compare ourselves to other moms and women who seem so put together when in reality we’re not seeing the raw, real snapshot of their lives..in video or in photos.. I don’t think we only share the pretty bc we’re trying to fool anyone. We do it bc we’re trying to protect ourselves. We just want to feel pretty & normal & like we’re a “good mom” & a “good human.” But what if we stopped trying to pretend we have it all together? What if we started sharing our real truth & raw moments? I genuinely believe there’d be more happiness & less depression & anxiety. We’d start to realize that what we’re going through is more common than not. We’d find our people who “get it.” I learned this years ago when I went on a tv show called The Bachelor. I was surrounded by the most beautiful women in America and I felt completely inadequate. I hid my reality. I was living in a trailer in a trailer park and had custody of my younger sisters. I had no money & drove an old stick-shift car. I didn’t think any of the women there would accept me or like me if they knew, let alone The Bachelor👀 I hid everything about me as best as I could while shooting the show, but I felt like a shell of myself. I was so insecure. I got eliminated obviously. Then I got a call from a Casting Producer for another TV show called married at first sight. This time I decided I wasn’t hiding anything. I shared that my mom struggled with drug addiction,that I never knew who my father was even after 4 paternity tests…they were all negative. I told them everything & that all I was really looking for was someone who would accept me and love me just as I was. I had no idea how freeing that would be…and that it’d lead to my happily ever after.🙏 All of this to say… If you’re hiding something because you’re scared of the judgment or feeling ugly & inadequate, please know you’re not alone. We all do it, but free yourself from hiding & let it out. You’ll find your people who will love you anyways & there’s so much joy in that🙏❤️