Shift from "passive" to "active" language to unlock relationships

Shift from "passive" to "active" language to unlock relationships Instead of "let me know if I can help" try saying, "would it be helpful if I did X, Y and Z activity?" When you shift your language from something passive, like, you let me know what I can do to help, to something active, where you say, I can offer this thing. Does that sound useful to you? You allow somebody else to engage with you at a different level and give you more targeted feedback. Almost any time that somebody says to me, "let me know if there's anything I can do," my brain just shuts off. Because number one, I might not know what skills they have. Number two, I might not know what resources they have. Maybe they don't have the time, maybe they don't have the access, maybe they don't have certain information that they need to be able to be helpful. And number three, maybe I don't have the mental capacity to connect the dots between what I think they might be able to do and what they can actually do. It's just too much mental labor. If you are able to, as the communicator, offer your services, offer your help in an explicit way and in an active way, then somebody else can respond and say, actually, it would be really great if you help me out with this one thing. Maybe I don't want X and Z, but I would love your help with ABC. Can you do that? When you offer something tangible, real and explicit, rather than this sort of generic, ambiguous, let me know if you think of anything, you end up building more trust and a deeper connection with the other person. They're more willing to think of ways to include you.