Don't ever make this dating mistake as an ambitious lady

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The video resonates by addressing a specific pain point for ambitious women: the potential conflict between their drive and a partner's lack of it. The direct, advice-driven format and relatable scenarios likely encourage engagement and sharing among the target audience.

Summary

The speaker advises ambitious women against dating men who are not equally ambitious or cannot support their drive. She explains that such relationships can lead to resentment, a decrease in ambition, and a feeling of complacency. The speaker highlights that while these men may seem nice, they can subtly sway ambitious women away from their goals, leading them to mistake this stagnation for 'princess treatment'.

Structure

1Introduction: Avoid dating mistake as an ambitious lady
2The core mistake: Dating a man who doesn't match your ambition
3Consequences: Resentment, shrinking ambition, complacency
4The 'nice guy' trap: Sweet men who sway you from your goals
5Red flags: Loss of ambition, mistaking stagnation for 'princess treatment'

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Don't ever make this dating mistake as an ambitious lady all my ambitious girlies. If you are an ambitious person, the worst mistake you're making a relationship decision is to date a man does not that is not ambitious or does not have the capacity to contain If you date a man that does not have that same or or even higher or cannot contain to Two things It's either, number he's going to resent that relationship, which if you not have a very of identity, it's gonna cause you to resent yourself gonna shrink. That is That is why a lot of times notice that a lot of women that you see a girl that is so well, she's, you know, she has so ambition, she's gonna a guy all of Oh, I want to be a stay-at-home I want to there's by There is nothing But there's a problem this is We all know this are, but you get into a relationship, a relationship, now you are now conforming into of of what a woman If you date have the have the capacity or does- is not as ambitious because you are the average of most of and if you're in a relationship, you spend with a man, you're start lacking you're gonna shrink. As an ambitious if you're or being with your partner, you want someone you You want someone that can compliment You don't want would ever say you're too much because ambitious ambitious girls like is is you often question, am much? Because society already tells you that you're Now Now imagine you're now with somebody that you're supposed to trust and the person that will now tell you're gonna start shrinking. Okay? in a relationship, know if you're Please do evaluation. If you've noticed that, in this relationship, be like do anything great with my life, please break up with that guy. Another telltale sign is when you're becoming comfortable and complacent. If you're with a partner well, you're, you- before you were always big, thinking realistic, up with that And the crazy when when ambitious women are dating these men, those men are always the nicest men. you you will actually find no red You will find no red flag. they're all of that. But you would notice ambition is going You will think it's love. You think now you're being There's something wrong There's If you're dating a man and split split second you forget ambition, "Oh, it's princess treatment" princess Rada rada Lo ba e oh, it's not princess treatment oh. It's Ori those men are always very sweet that that they can sway you away from your future You will treatment. It's not princess treatment I just have to let you

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This advice is for my ambitious girlies alone ‼️ it is so important. Don’t let anyone sway you away from your goals and ambitions. Don’t shrink yourself for anyone. Don’t do it #ambitious #fyp #viral

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Transcript

I never talk about men on my platform. I used to talk about them, but I try not to talk about them again because like this platform is for women. Like I don't care about men and like that. It's talking about a man. But I want to share something to all my ambitious girlies. If you are an ambitious person, the worst mistake you can make whenever you're making a relationship decision is to date a man that does not have the capacity to contain your ambition. If you date a man that does not have that same level or even higher or cannot contain your ambition, you're gonna suffer. Two things will happen. It's either, number one, he's going to resent that relationship, which if you do not have a very strong sense of identity, it's gonna cause you to resent yourself. Or you're gonna shrink. That is why a lot of times you will notice that a lot of women that you see a girl that is doing so well, she's, you know, she has so ambition, she's gonna date a guy. All of a sudden, my mind will start changing into saying, oh, I want to be a stay-at-home mom. I want to be there's nothing wrong by there is nothing wrong with that by the way. But there's a problem. This is not what we are, but you get into a relationship, now you are now conforming into societal standard of what a traditional woman should look like. If you date a man that does not have the capacity or does not is not as ambitious as you, because you are the average of the most of the people you spend time with. And if you're in a relationship, you spend with a man, you're gonna start lacking ambition. You're gonna start shrinking. As an ambitious babe, if you're gonna be getting married or being with your partner, you want someone that you want someone that can compliment. You don't want someone that would ever say you're too much because ambitious girls like me, we have is you often question, am I doing too much? Because society already tells you that you're doing too much. Now imagine you're now with somebody that you're supposed to trust and the person that will now tell you're gonna start shrinking. Okay? So whenever you're in a relationship, how would you know if you're in a wrong relationship? Please do evaluation. If you've noticed that, okay, since I've gotten into this relationship, I like I never do anything great with my life, please break up with that guy. Another telltale sign is when you're becoming comfortable and complacent. If you're with a partner and you- before you were always thinking big, thinking, you know, being realistic, please break up with that guy. And the crazy thing is that when ambitious women are dating these men, those men are always the nicest men. You will find no red flag. You will find no red flag. They're all of that. But you would notice ambition is going down. You will think it's love. You think now you're being there's something wrong. There's something wrong. If you're dating a man and for a split second you forget your ambition, you say, "Oh, it's princess treatment." It's not princess treatment. Rada rada Lo ba e oh, it's not princess treatment oh. It's not princess treatment oh. Because those men are always very sweet that they can sway you away from your future. You will think it's princess treatment. It's not princess treatment.