Stop marrying someone that you need to raise.

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The video likely resonated with viewers due to its controversial and relatable take on relationship dynamics, using strong, declarative statements and visual aids to emphasize the message about unhealthy relationship patterns.

Summary

The speaker argues that marriage should be between two responsible adults, not one person raising another. He explains that when one partner acts as a parent to the other, the relationship becomes unsustainable and leads to exhaustion and resentment.

Structure

1Introduction: Marriage is not about raising an adult.
2The problem: Marrying adults who need parenting.
3Consequences: Roles of parent/child in marriage.
4The solution: Marriage requires two adult partners.
5Conclusion: Don't confuse support with raising someone.

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Marriage isn't about raising another adult. Healthy marriages are built by two responsible people, not one parent and one child. Stop confusing love with parenting, and choose maturity before commitment. #Love #fyp #viral #parent #DrRickNetshiozwi

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Marriage Counselling line +27677033585 STOP MARRYING If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them MARRIAGE IS NOT AN ADOPTION If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them STOP MARRYING ADULTS THAT NEED PARENTING If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them IF YOU HAVE TO CONSTANTLY REMIND If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them THEM TO WORK TO KEEP THEIR PROMISES TO TELL THE TRUTH If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them TO BE RESPONSIBLE TO RESPECT YOU If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them TO DO OTHER STUFF YOU'RE NOT BUILDING MARRIAGE If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them YOU'RE RAISING AN ADULT I'VE WATCHED HUSBANDS BECOME FATHERS TO WIVES If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them I'VE WATCHED WIVES BECOME MOTHERS TO HUSBANDS NEITHER RELATIONSHIP LASTS HAPPILY If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them BECAUSE EVENTUALLY THE PARENT BECOMES EXHAUSTED AND THE CHILD BECOMES If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them RESENTFUL MARRIAGE ONLY WORKS WHEN If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them TWO ADULTS MEET EACH OTHER NOT WHEN ONE BECOMES THE PROJECT If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them OF THE OTHER LOVE SOMEONE SUPPORT SOMEONE If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them ENCOURAGE SOMEONE BUT DON'T CONFUSE SUPPORT WITH RAISING THEM If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them NOW BECAUSE IF YOU HAVE TO RAISE A PERSON YOU MARRIED DON'T BE SURPRISED WHEN If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them YOU LIKE A SPOUSE AND START TREATING YOU LIKE A PARENT ULTIMATELY If You Have to Raise Them, Don't Marry Them PEOPLE OR SOME PEOPLE RATHER ARE MARRYING CHILDREN OUT THERE AND THEY'RE RAISING CHILDREN WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING AND THAT IS WHY SOME MARRIAGES SPOUSES GET TIRED

Transcript

Stop marrying someone that you need to raise. I'm going to say something that will upset a lot of people. Marriage is not an adoption. Stop marrying adults that need parenting. If you have to constantly remind them to work, to keep their promises, to tell the truth, uh, to be responsible, to respect you even, you know, to to to do other stuff. You're not building marriage. You're raising an adult. I've watched husbands become fathers to wives. I've watched wives become mothers to husbands. Neither relationship lasts happily because eventually the parent becomes exhausted and the child becomes resistant. Marriage only works when two adults meet each other. Not when one becomes the project of the other. Love someone, support someone, encourage someone but don't confuse support with raising them. Now because if you have to raise a person you married. Don't be surprised when they stop treating you like a spouse and start treating you like a parent. Ultimately, people or some people rather are marrying children out there and they're raising children without even knowing and that is why some marriages spouses get tired.