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When I say I want to be alone, my wife doesn't count, WE want to be alone

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Why it worked

The video resonated with a broad audience by humorously articulating a common relationship dynamic: the desire for personal space even when with a loved one. The relatable premise and the creator's candid delivery likely drove engagement.

Summary

The creator explains the difference between wanting to be alone and wanting to be with their spouse. They clarify that when they say they want to be alone, it doesn't include their wife, as they can still be together and do separate activities without needing constant interaction. This is contrasted with having plans that get canceled, leading to the freedom to do nothing together, which is seen as a perk of a long-term relationship.

Structure

1Defining "alone time" in a relationship
2Distinguishing personal solitude from shared presence
3The freedom of doing nothing together
4The benefit of long-term relationships
5Appreciating canceled plans for personal time

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When I say I want to be alone, my wife doesn't count, WE want to be alone

Transcript

When I say I want to be alone, my wife doesn't count, WE want to be alone. There's a very big difference there. When I say I don't want to be around anybody today, my wife's not included in that. She's included in that isolation. Because I'm not talking about her being around, or her is different than being around all these people. There's no random conversations, I don't have to plan ahead, there's no expectations. I don't have to try to entertain anybody or talk to people that I don't want to talk to or I've never even met before. And honestly, we don't even have to have a conversation. We don't have to be on the couch, but on opposite sides. We could each be doing our own things for multiple hours. Maybe she's reading a book, doing scrolling, maybe watching a movie, watching a TV series. Maybe we're doing it together. It doesn't really matter because I'm not alone, but I want to be alone. And she doesn't count as being alone. I'm sure a lot of people can relate to that. Maybe for you, it's your significant other, it's your friend, it's your family member, whatever else. But you know what I mean. The best is when we have plans that we made and sounded really good at the time, but then they get canceled at the last minute. And then we can just do our own thing. Like, wait, they're canceled? Okay, great. Now we can do what we actually want to do, which is nothing. And that's one of the best parts about being someone for so long. We've been together for over 13 years now. We started dating in ninth grade. So we can just shut our brains off. We can just relax. We're not technically alone because we do have each other.