How to get over Your ex 101

@nosaakhareee

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Why it worked

The video resonated by validating the emotional pain of a breakup and offering a compassionate, realistic perspective on healing. It normalized difficult feelings and provided a simple, actionable message of hope focused on self-care.

Summary

The video offers advice on how to get over an ex, emphasizing that healing is a personal process with no set timeline. It explains that breakups trigger neurochemical withdrawal and encourages self-compassion, acknowledging that suppressed issues may surface. The creator stresses the importance of allowing oneself to grieve and be patient, ultimately focusing on finding hope in the present moment.

Structure

1Introduction to getting over an ex
2Explanation of the neurochemical impact of breakups
3Encouragement for self-compassion and patience
4Acknowledgement of surfacing personal issues
5Focus on finding hope in the present

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How to get over Your ex 101 OVER YOUR EX? STEP ONE, OVER IT. YOU HAVE TO GO GET OUT OF PEOPLE TELL YOU YOU GET OVER RANDOM TUESDAY, BUT THEY DON'T TUESDAY IT IS. TOMORROW'S TUESDAY. IT COULD BE TUESDAY THREE MONTHS FROM NOW. TUESDAY A YEAR FROM NOW. TIMELINE TO HEALING. Yes, science shows that romantic breakups and drug addiction light up the exact same reward and motivation pathways in the brain. When you lose a partner, your brain experiences a sudden crash in dopamine and goes through a real neurochemical withdrawal. Rutgers Univ. x2 WITHDRAWAL. GIVE YOURSELF THE GRACE THAT FRIENDS TOO MUCH BUT YOU DON'T GIVE YOURSELF GRACE AT ALL. YOU WILL THINK CRAZY. YOU'RE RUNNING MAD. YOU'RE ALONE. YOU WILL HATE YOURSELF FOR CRYING. YOU HATE YOURSELF BUT I PROMISE NOTHING WRONG WITH NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU HAD A CONNECTION WITH SOMEBODY BEEN CUT OFF. AND OF COURSE, HURT YOU. YOU'RE GOING TO FEEL DISCONNECTED. GOING TO UNLEASH DIFFERENT THINGS WITHIN THAT YOU DIDN'T EVEN REALISE, THOUGHT YOU PUSHED YOUR ABANDONMENT ISSUES FACE, COME OUT. YOUR CODEPENDENCY ISSUES, YOU NOW REALISE, I DIDN'T LIKE MYSELF BEFORE AND A DISTRACTION. YOU GO TO THEIR PAGE LOOKING OF COMFORT. WITH SOMEBODY IN THEIR COMMENTS. HURT YOU EVEN BUT I NEED YOU TO REALISE IS NOT A WHO GETS OVER THE WINNER. LONGER IN YOUR AND IT IS PAINFUL. ALLOW YOURSELF TO CRY. GRIEVE. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF. HONESTLY SPEAKING, I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO TELL YOU. THERE ARE 8BILLION YOU WILL MOVE YOU HAVEN'T HEARD ALREADY BUT I'M GOING ONE THING. YOU'RE ALIVE, THERE'S HOPE. NOT ALWAYS BE FINDING SOMEBODY ELSE. THAT HOPE MIGHT BE YOU DECIDING TODAY TO STAND BED THE NEAREST SHOP AND BUY BISCUITS TO EAT. AS LONG AS YOU THERE IS HOPE FOR TOMORROW. AND THAT IS YOUR MAIN GOAL. FOCUS ON TODAY BECAUSE TOMORROW IS REGARDLESS. FOCUS ON TODAY.

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Transcript

How to get over your ex? Step one, over it. You have to go get out of it. People tell you, you get over it on a random Tuesday, but they don't tell you which Tuesday it is. Tomorrow's Tuesday. It could be Tuesday three months from now. Tuesday a year from now. There is no timeline to healing. Yes, science shows that romantic breakups and drug addiction light up the exact same reward and motivation pathways in the brain. When you lose a partner, your brain experiences a sudden crash in dopamine and goes through a real neurochemical withdrawal. Give yourself the grace that friends too much, but you don't give yourself grace at all. You will think you're crazy. You're running mad. You're alone. You will hate yourself for crying. You hate yourself, but I promise, nothing wrong with you. You had a connection with somebody and it has been cut off. And of course, it's going to hurt you. You're going to feel disconnected. Your breakup is going to unleash different things within that you didn't even realize. Thought you pushed your abandonment issues face, come out. Your codependency issues, you now realize, I didn't like myself before and a distraction. You go to their page looking for some form of comfort. You might even see them flirting with somebody in their comments. That it will hurt you even more. But I need you to realize that a breakup is not a competition of who gets over the winner. They are no longer in your life and it is painful. Allow yourself to cry. Allow yourself to grieve. There is nothing wrong with you. Be patient with yourself. Honestly speaking, I don't know what to tell you. There are 8 billion people on the planet, you will move on. There's nothing you haven't heard already. But I'm going to tell you one thing. You're alive, there's hope. That hope might not always be finding somebody else. That hope might be you deciding today to stand up from your bed and go to the nearest shop and buy biscuits to eat. As long as you are alive, there is hope for tomorrow. And that is your main goal. Focus on today because tomorrow is regardless. Focus on today.