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The video likely resonated with viewers by addressing a common social phenomenon (being labeled) and relating it to personal experiences and dating apps. The creator's direct and candid approach, combined with a touch of humor and self-reflection, likely contributed to its engagement.

Summary

The creator discusses being called a narcissist and how this label is often applied to confident and decisive individuals. She shares an anecdote about a friend showing her Tinder profiles, leading to a joke about Tinder. The creator emphasizes that people should be mindful of labeling others and that personal experiences with dating apps are not necessarily anyone else's business. She also touches on the idea that self-awareness and understanding one's own reactions are important.

Structure

1Introduction and the label of narcissism
2General characteristics associated with narcissism
3Personal experience of being called a narcissist
4The role of dating apps and Tinder
5Critique of labeling others and the importance of self-reflection

Product placement

Tinder: a dating app that allows users to match with potential partners based on location and mutual interests. It acts as a platform for users to connect and potentially form relationships. Removing it would change the context of the video's discussion about dating experiences.

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ALRIGHT, LET'S JUMP IN. THE FIRST WON'T BE THE I'VE BEEN LABELLED A NARCISSIST. GENERALLY SPEAKING WHEN SOMEONE IS INCREDIBLY DECISIVE, CONFIDENT, WANT AND JUST TO ASSERT THEMSELVES IN THAT DIRECTION WITHOUT ASKING OPINIONS OR NEEDING YOU TO VALIDATE OR FLUFF THEIR FEATHERS OFTEN THAT IS WHEN I'LL GET CALLED A NARCISSIST. I QUITE OFTEN GOT CALLED A NARCISSIST BY MY EX HUSBAND SO I WE ALL HAVE NARCISSISTIC TRAITS I BUT ALSO BECK YOU DON'T KNOW THE FULL AND IT'S NOT NECESSARILY ANY OF A BUSINESS THAT THIS HAPPENED SEVEN SEVEN MONTHS AGO A SEPARATE ROOM. OKAY, MORE THAN ENOUGH TIME. THAT WAS ACTUALLY A JOKE BASED ON TINDER WHAT HAPPENED AND NOT THAT IT IS ANY OF ANYONE'S FUCKING BUSINESS. ARE. LAST WEEKEND ONE SAID TO ME WAIT UNTIL YOU THE DATING APPS BECAUSE I MET MY PARTNER ON BUMBLE AND TODAY'S TECHNOLOGY AMAZING. SHE STARTED SHOWING ME HER TINDER EXPERIENCES I'M SHARING ARE OF THEIR TINDER PROFILES. IS ANYONE'S BUSINESS. A RELATIONSHIP ONE DAY AND GO THE NEXT DAY. IN MY OPINION IT'S UP TO DEAL WITH BREAKUPS BUT THIS WOMEN CALLING OTHER WOMEN NARCISSISTS ON THE INTERNET HAS TO STOP. YOU'RE NOT A DOCTOR YOU'RE NOT A PSYCHOLOGIST AND IT'S DAMAGING NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY TR EXIST IN ALL OF US AND IT'S OUR AWARENESS PIECE TO TALK TO EACH WHAT'S PROBABLY MORE IMPORTANT BECK GO AWAY AND AT WHY THAT TRIGGERED YOU WHY THAT ACTIVATED YOU AND YOUR BECAUSE I'M VERY MUCH AT PEACE HAVE BEHAVED THROUGHOUT THIS WHOLE I'VE BEEN HONEST WITH MY WITH I'M I'M LEAVING THE SITUATION AND AS A CONTENT CREATOR THAT HAS BUILT A COMMUNITY AROUND REALNESS I HAVE AGREED TO PARTICIPATE IN BIT OF THIS PROCESS WITH YOU GUYS DON'T ABUSE THAT GIFT IS WITH YOU WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE TO GROW THREE BUSINESSES BREAKUP AND TO MOVE OUT AND I'M SHARING AND I DON'T NEED THIS SHIT OKAY SO PIPE DOWN DOCTOR SO FUN FACT AS WELL USED TO CALL ME A NARCISSIST SO MUCH ON SO MUCH ON THE INTERNET WITH LIKE THOSE YOU KNOW JUST VAGUE I'VE BEEN ABUSED MESSAGES SO YOU KNOW WHAT I SAW NUMEROUS THERAPIST AND I SAID SO AND YOU PROBABLY HAVEN'T SEEN THIS SERIES DON'T KNOW HOW DAMAGING WHAT YOU'VE ACTUALLY HOW HARMFUL BUT DON'T WORRY I'M INCREDIBLY RESILIENT EMOTIONALLY SOUND AND THAT THAT ACTUALLY HAS QUALIFICATIONS. HERE'S THE THING I WALKED IN AND I SAID I THINK I'M A NARCISSIST BECAUSE THE THIS PERSON SAID IT. I'VE HAD EX COACHING CLIENTS LEAVE PEOPLE WHO GENERALLY SEE THIS LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE AND CAN'T UNDERSTAND HOW THIS HAS THE AUDACITY TO BE SO FUCKING VIVACIOUS AND SO CONFIDENT. SO WHEN I AND I SAID LIKE I THINK I'M A NARCISSIST WORKING WITH US FOR A LITTLE SAID OH BABE, YOU'RE NOT SHE SAID AND THERE'S ONE REASON THINK YOU ARE LIKE WHY? THE FACT THAT YOU'RE THINKING YOU ARE SO P THE MOST COMMON THING IN PEOPLE WHO ARE ACTUALLY NARCISSIST EVERYBODY ELSE ONE BUT THIS IS A MEDICAL DIAGNOSIS. I THINK IT'S HORRIBLE THAT IT'S BECOME JUST A HASHTAG FOR PEOPLE TO JUST WIELD LIKE A LIKE A WOUNDING NAME CALLING ONLINE BULLYING KIND AND IT'S ICKY AND GROSS AND IT TAKES PEOPLE THAT ACTUALLY WONDERFUL HEART. I HAVE BEEN SO PATIENT THROUGHOUT THIS WHOLE PROCESS THE RIGHT TO LOVE. I HAVE THE RIGHT TO DATE, I HAVE THE ON AND I DON'T OWE YOU HIM OR ANYONE ELSE AN EXPLANATION ON HOW QUICKLY OR WITH WHAT THAT. NOW JUST TAKING LITTLE BIT AS WELL, I MOVE AT AN INCREDIBLY FAST PACE THE PACE PACE THE PACE DO BUSINESS AND LIFE. NEVER MET ANYONE THAT MAKES DECISIONS AND TAKES ACTIONS SOMETIMES AS SWIFTLY AND AS DECISIVELY AS I DO. SO I ABSOLUTELY WILL SPEED THIS PROCESS UP PROCESS CAN AND IF I NEED TO UH, I MAKE FAST ACTION. I'M MOVING OUT I'VE GOT SO DIDN'T REALISE I'M SO MUCH SHIT. THAT'S MY TAKE IS THAT YOU JUST NEED TO BIT CAREFUL AND MINDFUL. TO FOLLOW ME THAT YOU ABSOLUTELY WON'T BE FOLLOWING ME NAMES. SO YOU'VE BEEN UM A FOLLOWER TIME BACK, WHICH IS WHY YOU'RE STILL HERE AND I THINK IT'S AN EDUCATION POINT. I NEVER SAID TINDER. I MADE A JOKE ABOUT TINDER. SO CHECK YOURSELF.

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ALRIGHT, LET'S JUMP IN. THIS IS NOT THE FIRST AND I PROBABLY WON'T BE THE LAST TIME THAT I'VE BEEN LABELLED A NARCISSIST. GENERALLY SPEAKING WHEN SOMEONE IS INCREDIBLY DECISIVE, CONFIDENT, WANT AND JUST TO ASSERT THEMSELVES IN THAT DIRECTION WITHOUT ASKING OPINIONS OR NEEDING YOU TO VALIDATE OR FLUFF THEIR FEATHERS, OFTEN THAT IS WHEN I'LL GET CALLED A NARCISSIST. I QUITE OFTEN GOT CALLED A NARCISSIST BY MY EX HUSBAND SO I WE ALL HAVE NARCISSISTIC TRAITS JUST FYI. BUT ALSO BECK YOU DON'T KNOW THE FULL AND IT'S NOT NECESSARILY ANY OF A BUSINESS THAT THIS HAPPENED SEVEN SEVEN MONTHS AGO. I MOVED INTO A SEPARATE ROOM. OKAY, MORE THAN ENOUGH TIME. THAT WAS ACTUALLY A JOKE BASED ON TINDER. WHAT HAPPENED AND NOT THAT IT IS ANYONE'S FUCKING BUSINESS. ARE. LAST WEEKEND ONE OF MY FRIENDS SAID TO ME, WAIT UNTIL YOU GET BACK ON THE DATING APPS BECAUSE I MET MY PARTNER ON BUMBLE AND TODAY'S TECHNOLOGY AMAZING. SHE STARTED SHOWING ME HER TINDER EXPERIENCES I'M SHARING ARE OF THEIR TINDER PROFILES. IS ANYONE'S BUSINESS. YOU COULD END A RELATIONSHIP ONE DAY AND GO THE NEXT DAY. IN MY OPINION, IT'S UP TO DEAL WITH BREAKUPS. BUT THIS WOMEN CALLING OTHER WOMEN NARCISSISTS ON THE INTERNET HAS TO STOP. YOU'RE NOT A DOCTOR, YOU'RE NOT A PSYCHOLOGIST AND IT'S DAMAGING NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY TR exist IN ALL OF US AND IT'S OUR AWARENESS PIECE TO TALK TO EACH WHAT'S PROBABLY MORE IMPORTANT BECK, GO AWAY AND AT WHY THAT TRIGGERED YOU, WHY THAT ACTIVATED YOU AND YOUR FEELINGS. BECAUSE I'M VERY MUCH AT PEACE HAVE BEHAVED THROUGHOUT THIS WHOLE PROCESS. I'VE BEEN HONEST WITH MY WITH I'M I'M LEAVING THE SITUATION AND AS A CONTENT CREATOR THAT HAS BUILT A COMMUNITY AROUND REALNESS, I HAVE AGREED TO PARTICIPATE IN BIT OF THIS PROCESS WITH YOU GUYS DON'T ABUSE THAT GIFT IS WITH YOU WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE TO GROW THREE BUSINESSES BREAKUP AND TO MOVE OUT AND I'M SHARING AND I DON'T NEED THIS SHIT. OKAY. SO PIPE DOWN DOCTOR SO FUN FACT AS WELL, MY EX HUSBAND USED TO CALL ME A NARCISSIST SO MUCH ON SO MUCH ON THE INTERNET WITH LIKE THOSE, YOU KNOW, JUST VAGUE I'VE BEEN ABUSED MESSAGES. SO YOU KNOW WHAT I DID? I WENT AND SAW NUMEROUS THERAPIST AND I SAID, SO AND YOU PROBABLY HAVEN'T SEEN THIS SERIES. DON'T KNOW HOW DAMAGING WHAT YOU'VE ACTUALLY HOW HARMFUL BUT DON'T WORRY, I'M INCREDIBLY RESILIENT, EMOTIONALLY SOUND AND THAT THAT ACTUALLY HAS QUALIFICATIONS. HERE'S THE THING. I WALKED IN AND I SAID, I THINK I'M A NARCISSIST BECAUSE THE THIS PERSON SAID IT. MY HUSBAND SAID IT. I'VE HAD EX COACHING CLIENTS LEAVE PEOPLE WHO GENERALLY SEE THIS LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE AND CAN'T UNDERSTAND HOW THIS HAS THE AUDACITY TO BE SO FUCKING VIVACIOUS AND SO CONFIDENT. SO WHEN I AND I SAID LIKE I THINK I'M A NARCISSIST WORKING WITH US FOR A LITTLE SAID OH BABE, YOU'RE NOT. SHE SAID AND THERE'S ONE REASON THINK YOU ARE LIKE WHY? THE FACT THAT YOU'RE THINKING YOU ARE. SO P THE MOST COMMON THING IN PEOPLE WHO ARE ACTUALLY NARCISSIST, EVERYBODY ELSE ONE. BUT THIS IS A MEDICAL DIAGNOSIS. I THINK IT'S HORRIBLE THAT IT'S BECOME JUST A HASHTAG FOR PEOPLE TO JUST WIELD LIKE A LIKE A WOUNDING NAME CALLING ONLINE BULLYING KIND AND IT'S ICKY AND GROSS AND IT TAKES PEOPLE THAT ACTUALLY WONDERFUL HEART. I HAVE BEEN SO PATIENT THROUGHOUT THIS WHOLE PROCESS. THE RIGHT TO LOVE. I HAVE THE RIGHT TO DATE, I HAVE THE ON AND I DON'T OWE YOU HIM OR ANYONE ELSE AN EXPLANATION ON HOW QUICKLY OR WITH WHAT THAT. NOW JUST TAKING LITTLE BIT AS WELL, I MOVE AT AN INCREDIBLY FAST PACE THE PACE PACE THE PACE DO BUSINESS AND LIFE. NEVER MET ANYONE THAT MAKES DECISIONS AND TAKES ACTIONS SOMETIMES AS SWIFTLY AND AS DECISIVELY AS I DO. SO I ABSOLUTELY WILL SPEED THIS PROCESS UP PROCESS CAN AND IF I NEED TO UH, I MAKE FAST ACTION. I'M MOVING OUT TODAY. I'VE GOT SO DIDN'T REALISE I'M SO MUCH SHIT. ANYWAY, THAT'S MY TAKE IS THAT YOU JUST NEED TO BIT CAREFUL AND MINDFUL. TO FOLLOW ME THAT YOU ABSOLUTELY WON'T BE FOLLOWING ME NAMES. SO YOU'VE BEEN UM A FOLLOWER TIME BACK, WHICH IS WHY YOU'RE STILL HERE AND I THINK IT'S AN EDUCATION POINT. I NEVER SAID TINDER. I MADE A JOKE ABOUT TINDER. SO CHECK YOURSELF.