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do this before you have kids with him

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Why it worked

The video taps into a universal concern for parents and prospective parents: the impact of their relationship dynamics on their children's future. By framing the advice as a thought experiment that evokes empathy and responsibility, it encourages self-reflection and resonates deeply with the audience.

Summary

The creator advises viewers to consider the impact of their arguments on their children by imagining them witnessing the conflict. She emphasizes that the way a couple argues sets a precedent for what their children will consider normal in relationships and prompts viewers to reflect on whether they are proud of the example they are setting.

Structure

1Imagine a newborn during arguments
2Imagine children watching arguments
3Consider the example you set
4Ask if you're proud of the example
5Ask if you'd want your children in a similar relationship
6Consider if this is the father you want

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do this before you have kids with him Next time you're arguing with your partner, I want you to imagine there's a Newborn baby in your arms during this argument, during this fight. The next time you're arguing with your partner, I want you to imagine your two year old is standing there watching. I want you to imagine your ten year old son is listening. I want you to imagine your 13 year old daughter is watching and learning. I want you to consider the fact that you're showing your children what love looks like, what a normal, regular relationship looks like. Because whatever it is that you model, that is what is going to be normal and regular to them. And I want you to ask yourself if you're proud of the example that you're setting for your children. I want you to ask yourself, would you be happy if they ended up in a relationship just like this one? Most importantly, I want you to ask yourself, is this the father you want your children to have? Because the first decision that you will ever make as a mother is deciding who your children's father will be. You argue when you are in a relationship with a partner and you're having children. Your arguments do not just affect you. They affect everybody in the household.