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You're a single mom divorcing a narcissist, watching your kids love the man who tried to destroy you

@the_survivor_center

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Why it worked

The video resonates with a specific audience experiencing difficult divorces and narcissistic abuse by validating their struggles and offering a message of empowerment. The direct, emotional hook and relatable scenario likely drove engagement.

Summary

The video features a woman speaking about the difficult decision of not speaking negatively about an ex-partner to their children, even when the partner is a narcissist. She emphasizes teaching children to trust their own judgment and recognize unhealthy situations rather than staying silent or speaking ill of the other parent.

Structure

1Introduction to the dilemma of a single mom divorcing a narcissist.
2Questioning the idea of letting children believe their abusive parent is good.
3Refusal to let children grow up with a false perception of safety and love.
4Emphasis on teaching children self-trust and truth recognition.

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You're a single mom divorcing a narcissist, watching your kids love the man who tried to destroy you Keeping your mouth shut letting them believe he's Dad of the Year Hell, no. We don't do that here.

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Never say anything bad about him, right? So, we’re supposed to gaslight our kids letting them believe their dad is trustworthy, a safe person and that he loves them? Hell, no. I refused to my child grow up thinking abuse equals love. I refused to let her believe her dad was safe when he wasn’t. I didn’t turn her against him. I didn’t trash talk him. And I didn’t stay silent. I taught her to recognize when something wasn’t right. How to trust herself. How to see the truth without me telling her what to think. Shielding our kids and pretending that everything is fine, that dad is safe, and that he loves them is not helping them. So I taught my kid to see the truth for herself. Safely. Strategically. Without trash talking her dad. Making sure she knew exactly who he was so his lies and manipulation stopped hurting her. And it worked. There’s a better way to lead your child through this. The Empower Your Kids Method is calm and strategic. It protects your kids minds without putting them in the middle or making things worse. This is the method all moms use when they realize silence isn’t protecting their kids anymore. Comment METHOD for the rest of the strategy. #divorce #narcissisticabuse #stepmom #singlemoms #coparenting