Post by @_chris_k241

So for the next 7 days, stop trying to make them choose you. DAY 1 — STOP CHASING THEIR ATTENTION. Don’t keep asking what’s wrong. Don’t keep trying to pull affection out of them. Don’t keep performing emotional CPR on a relationship that’s not breathing. Give yourself permission to stop chasing. Their distance is not a problem you have to solve every time. DAY 2 — STOP OVEREXPLAINING YOUR WORTH. You don’t need another speech about how much you care. They know. You don’t need to create another list of everything you’ve done. They know. And if someone requires you to continually prove that you’re worthy of being loved… the problem isn’t that you haven’t explained yourself well enough. DAY 3 — WATCH WHAT THEY DO WHEN YOU STOP DOING EVERYTHING. This isn’t a manipulation tactic. You’re not withdrawing to punish them. You’re simply stepping back from carrying the entire emotional weight of the relationship. Notice what happens. Do they move toward you? Do they communicate? Do they try? Do they take responsibility? Or does everything become completely silent because you were the only one keeping it alive? **Sometimes you don’t need to ask whether someone is choosing you. Stop chasing long enough to see.** DAY 4 — STOP ABANDONING YOURSELF TO KEEP THE PEACE. Say what you actually feel. Honor your boundaries. Stop pretending something doesn’t hurt when it does. Stop saying “it’s fine” when it isn’t. Stop shrinking your needs because you’re terrified that having needs will push them away. You shouldn’t have to disappear inside a relationship just to remain inside it. DAY 5 — ASK YOURSELF THE QUESTION YOU’VE BEEN AVOIDING. Not: “How do I get them to choose me?” Ask: “If nothing about this relationship changed, could I live like this for another five years?” Don’t answer based on fear. Don’t answer based on what you hope they’ll become. Answer based on what you’re actually experiencing. Because sometimes the hardest truth isn’t: “They don’t love me.” It’s: “This relationship isn’t giving me the kind of love I need anymore.” And those are not the same thing. Maybe they can change. Maybe the relationship can be repaired. Maybe there is still something worth rebuilding. But rebuilding requires two people participating. You cannot carry a relationship for two people and call it partnership. And here’s what I really want you to understand: Stop making their choice the most important choice in your life. If they choose you, that matters. But you have a choice too. You can choose honesty. You can choose boundaries. You can choose dignity. You can choose to stop begging for what should be freely given. You can choose to stop making yourself smaller so someone else doesn’t feel the need to leave. And if you have a family together, hear me carefully: Your responsibility isn’t simply to keep the family looking intact. It’s to consider what kind of emotional environment you’re creating inside that family. Children don’t need a perfect home. They need adults who model honesty, respect, accountability, communication, and healthy love. That doesn’t automatically mean leaving. Sometimes it means doing the hard work of rebuilding. Sometimes it means counseling. Sometimes it means boundaries. And sometimes it means accepting that you cannot rebuild something by yourself. But whatever you decide… don’t destroy yourself trying to convince someone to choose you. Because the saddest thing isn’t losing someone who didn’t choose you. The saddest thing is spending so many years trying to become worthy of their choice… that you forget you were supposed to choose yourself too. For the next seven days, stop asking, “How do I make them choose me?” Ask: “What would I do differently if I stopped being afraid they might leave?” Start there. This page is dedicated to helping people navigate heartbreak, attachment wounds, emotional pain, self-awareness, and deep reflection through brutal honesty, psychology, faith, and inward healing. #heartbroken #fypシ #relationships #chriscarrillo #healing