You're welcome, but are you wanted?

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Why it worked

The video resonates with viewers by tapping into a universal desire for genuine belonging and validation, contrasting it with mere social obligation. The relatable analogy of 'holding the camera' and the direct, honest tone make the message impactful.

Summary

The speaker reflects on the difference between being welcome and being wanted, stating a preference for situations where their presence is noticed and valued, rather than merely accommodated. They emphasize that an invitation that feels like an afterthought is not a true invitation.

Structure

1Introduction of the concept: welcome vs. wanted
2Personal realization about holding the camera
3Defining the difference
4Preference for being wanted over being welcome
5Rejection of afterthought invitations

On-screen text

You're welcome, but are you wanted? SO I HEARD SOMEBODY SAY, IF THEY TELL YOU IF YOU WANT TO, DON'T GO, BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT IN YOU'RE THE ONE HOLDING THE CAMERA. AND, DAMN, THAT HIT ME. BECAUSE THERE'S A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEING WELCOME AND BEING WANTED. I DON'T WANT TO BE SOMEWHERE WHERE PEOPLE WILL MAKE ROOM FOR ME IF I HAPPEN TO SHOW UP. I WANT TO BE SOMEWHERE THEY NOTICE IF I DON'T. THE INVITATION FEELS LIKE AN AFTERTHOUGHT, LEAVE ME OUT OF THE PICTURE. I'M NOT HOLDING THE CAMERA ANYMORE.

Original caption

There’s a big difference between being invited and being included. #KnowYourWorth #LifeLessons #realtalk #Relationships #Over40Women

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Transcript

So I heard somebody say, if they tell you, if you want to, you can come if you want to. Don't go, because you're not in. You're the one holding the camera. And damn, that hit me. Because there's a big difference between being welcome and being wanted. I don't want to be somewhere where people will make room for me if I happen to show up. I want to be somewhere they notice if I don't. If the invitation feels like an afterthought, leave me out of the picture. I'm not holding the camera anymore.