The real reason why I think people aren't having kids

I'm 38 and single and I wanted to make this video because the narratives that people create online about women my age and why we are single are so profoundly divorced from reality that it's basically a full-blown fantasmagoria. There's always this idea of like I was chasing a 1% guy and that those men passed me around and then they married someone much younger and had kids with them. What's so funny about this narrative is I've been in four long-term relationships and none of those men went on to have children, not one of them. And also none of the men that I dated short-term like anywhere from a few months to a year, none of them had children except for one guy I dated who already had a kid when we dated and one other guy who went on to have a baby with a woman who I am 99% sure is the full breadwinner and fully financially supporting their family. And I mention this because there's this narrative about women wanting to be girl bosses, women wanting to be the breadwinners. Oh, women, we're so feminist, we want to be men now, we can't soften. The reality is that for most women, not all women, but for most women, it's kind of part of our biological design to want to reproduce. Please don't get offended if I say this and you're not one of those women, great, I'm not talking to you. But women are being blamed for not reproducing. I actually have a theory about why that is and it has nothing to do with women being super woke and super feminist. It has to do with financial insecurity amongst men. So I ended my last long-term relationship at 35. He was in full-blown financial ruin, like had done incredibly dumb shit with his money, shockingly dumb. Two of the guys I dated long-term are great dudes, speak so highly of them. The other two, thank God I didn't end up with either of these men. The two that thank God I didn't end up with, those men always had wonky money problems. The two great dudes always had their money together, both didn't want to have kids, both don't have kids, okay? Every guy I've dated since 35 who is now in a relationship, they are all unilaterally 100% with women who are older than me, except for one guy. The men who I was the most interested in all dated women who were older than me. And it was crazy making because I remember I had this guy friend who I had to stop being friends with, I think he whatever, and he kept telling me, you need to date older, you need to date older than 60. I was 35. And then the men I would be interested in were settling down with women who were older than me and in the most egregious case, one of them was with a woman who was his investor and she was post-menopausal. And I remember going out with this guy and him shuddering over like he wanted to get a tea and I ordered a reishi cappuccino that was $11. He did not like that I ordered the reishi cappuccino. My point of this is not to shame men, it is to shed light on the current financial trajectory of the United States and the fact that I think a lot of men actually feel like they cannot provide for the type of woman that they would most want. And to buy a home in Los Angeles, California where I live is next to impossible unless you have a trust fund or you are just making crazy, crazy, crazy money. I could get a lot more conspiratorial right now, but I am going to say this and I'm going to avoid going down any rabbit holes, like millennials, the years where we would be most likely like getting married and having kids, those years were hijacked from us due to COVID. I was the night of the lockdown was my 32nd birthday and actually COVID, I believe, cemented me in a relationship that I was never meant to be in and had I had more freedom and mobility, I would have gotten out of that relationship much more rapidly because there's things that you see with somebody when you're interfacing with the world that you don't so much see when you're shut in and it's just the two of you, you know what I mean? I think we need to and are starting to look at that time and that timeline more holistically as opposed to good side, bad side, like we're seeing that that era probably did irreparable damage to for example, like men who were already playing too many video games. Like now those men are probably red-pilled. I think too many of these conversations about the declining birth rate are just unilaterally blaming women and like women becoming too leftist and feminist and they're not actually looking at the situation holistically, which is that if there is no capacity to not only not build generational wealth, but to make enough money to get by, that it's actually a lot of men who are opting out and I'm not even blaming men for this, like I think that our economy is fucked. That is just my two cents. I think that the economy plays a lot more into this than people are even willing to acknowledge.