Do men want kids more than women now?

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The video taps into a common societal debate about gender roles in parenting and the perceived differences in desire for children. The creator's personal anecdotes and strong opinions likely resonate with viewers, sparking engagement and discussion.

Summary

The speaker discusses the perception that men want children more than women now, arguing that men often desire children without fully understanding the immense effort and work involved. She contrasts this with women's deeper understanding of the commitment, often gained through personal experience or observing others. The speaker also shares her own affinity for children, stemming from a familial trait that creates a strong bond with them.

Structure

1Introduction of the topic: men wanting kids more than women.
2Men's desire for kids is superficial, like a child wanting a puppy.
3Speaker's personal experience with children and her own genetic predisposition.
4Women's deeper understanding of the commitment and realities of parenting.
5The speaker's personal love for children and her ability to connect with them.
6Conclusion on the differing perspectives of men and women regarding parenthood.

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Do men want kids more than women now? Why do all the kids WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FIND A GUY WANT KIDS TODAY I DON'T WANT KIDS ALL THESE MEN WANT KIDS THEY WANT MARRIAGE IT'S BECAUSE MEN WANT SAME WAY THAT A SMALL CHILD RIGHT THEY HAVE HOW MUCH WORK NOT PREPARED FOR AT THE END GOING TO BE MOM AND COME SCHOOL TO PLAY ONCE IN A TO BE THEIR RESPONSIBILITY OH LOCK IN HERE QUITE HEATED ON WEEK BECAUSE OF THE ARGUMENT I NOW NO LONGER SEEING BECAUSE HE COULDN'T UNDERSTAND DO WANNA BE YEAR RIGHT THEY DON'T FULLY UNDERSTAND THE AMOUNT OF ACTUAL EFFORT AND WORK THAT CHILDREN ARE AND SO THEY TAKE THE TOPIC THAT UNDERSTAND IT IN THE SAME WAY THAT WOMEN UNDERSTAND IT HONESTLY LUCKILY JUST CAUSE THEM HAVEN'T HAD TO EXPERIENCE IT FIRSTHAND SOLD THIS PROPAGANDA THIS THEORY OF A FAMILY RIGHT WHICH SOUNDS NICE IF YOU ASK ME WANNA KIDS YEAH SURE I'LL TAKE TWO KIDS IN MY MIND THAT SOUNDS AWESOME THE IDEA OF SAID THAT HOWEVER IT IS NOT I TAKE LIGHTLY IT IS VERY HEAVY VERY SERIOUS IT'S A LIFETIME COMMITMENT AND I NANNED KIDS FOR THE BETTER PART OF A DECADE GROWING WORKED WITH KIDS EXTENSIVELY I WAS A KID AT POINT THAT DIDN'T GO TOO WELL EITHER FOR ME AND FUNNY PEOPLE ONLINE BELIEVE ACTUALLY LOVE CHILDREN THERE'S A TO WORK WITH A DECADE WHATEVER GENE MY GRANDPA HAD THAT CREATES LIKE A STRANGE UNSPOKEN BOND BETWEEN HIM AND PETS AND CHILDREN I ALSO INHERITED AND KIDS AND PETS CAN SMELL IT AWAY I HAVE SOME STRANGE ABILITY TO GET ON AND COMMUNICATE WITH THEM IN A WAY THAT BONDS US QUITE STRONGLY THEM IN THE WILD YOU THROW A CRYING TODDLER MY SOMEHOW GET IT LAUGHING IN 60 SECONDS OR YOUR MONEY BACK WHEN I USED TO GO AROUND CATCHING BIRDS LIKE A DISNEY PRINCESS AND THAT FROM A VERY TERRIFYING HOWEVER BECAUSE OF FIRSTHAND HOW EXHAUSTING KIDS ARE TO NO END ESPECIALLY AND AS A GROWN UP SURROUNDED THESE WOMEN SEEN AT FIRSTHAND REPEATEDLY IS BEING WARNED AND LISTENS WHO SAY NOT ONLY ONE DON'T SINGLE MOTHER ESPECIALLY DO A SINGLE MOTHER IN A MARRIAGE THAT IS THE MOST LONELY VERSION THESE AREN'T THE SAME THOUGHTS LOT OF THESE WHO JUST THINK LIKE OH WIFE AND KIDS THAT'D BE NICE SOMEDAY SO MUCH DEEPER THAN THAT AND THE HORRORS OF SOMEHOW STILL MARRIED THE SAME THOUGHTS LOT OF THESE WHO JUST THINK LIKE OH WIFE AND KIDS THAT'D BE NICE SOMEDAY SO MUCH DEEPER THAN THAT AND THE HORRORS OF SOMEHOW STILL MARRIED

Original caption

Parenting and motherhood is hard and men often just look at it from the perspective of being a father #motherhood #parenting #kids @Paige

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Transcript

Why do all the kids, why is it so hard to find a guy who wants kids today? I don't want kids. All these men want kids, they want marriage. It's because men want it the same way that a small child wants a puppy, right? They have no idea how much work it is. They're not prepared for it. At the end, they're going to be able to leave it with their mom and come home from school to play with it. Once in a while. It's not going to be their responsibility. Oh, lock in here. I'm quite heated on this topic this week because of the argument I had with the man I am now no longer seeing because he couldn't understand. Do you wanna be dad of the year, right? They don't fully understand the amount of actual effort and work that children are. And so they take the topic that understand it in the same way that women understand it. Honestly, luckily, just cause a lot of them haven't had to experience it firsthand. Sold this propaganda, this theory of a family, right? Which sounds nice if you ask me. Wanna kids? Yeah, sure, I'll take two kids. In my mind, that sounds awesome. I'm not against the idea of kids. I've always said that. However, it is not a topic that I take lightly. It is very heavy, very serious. It's a lifetime commitment. And I nannied kids for the better part of a decade, growing up. Worked with kids extensively. I was a kid at one point that didn't go too well either for me. And funny, contrary to what people online believe, I actually love children. There's a reason I chose to work with them for like a decade. Whatever gene my grandpa had that creates like a strange unspoken bond between him and pets and children. I also inherited. And kids and pets can smell it from a mile away. I have some strange ability to get on and communicate with them in a way that bonds us quite strongly when I encounter them in the wild. If you throw a crying toddler my way, I will somehow get it laughing in 60 seconds or your money back. When I was little, I used to go around catching birds like a Disney princess. And men can smell that from a mile away. It's very terrifying. However, because of experiencing it firsthand, how exhausting kids are to no end, especially if they're yours. And as a woman who has grown up surrounded in community with these women, seen it firsthand, repeatedly, is being warned and listens who say not only one don't single mother, especially do a single mother in a marriage. That is the most lonely version. These aren't the same thoughts that haunt a lot of these who just think like, oh, wife and kids, that'd be nice someday. So much deeper than that. And the horrors of somehow still married. The same thoughts that haunt a lot of these who just think like, oh, wife and kids, that'd be nice someday. So much deeper than that. And the horrors of somehow still married.