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Their other posts in the index, biggest breakout first.
this is what life looks like when you say yes to everything when I move to a new city I told myself I would say yes to everything for at least one year I love being a homebody and I got engaged who is also a homebody so naturally we found ourselves at home a lot but I started to wonder what opportunities I was missing out on because I just wasn't out there increasing my surface area of luck and one day I woke up and I realized many girlfriends I didn't have people to make plans with and on top of working remote for so many years how to make friends and how to be a good friend so when I moved to New York I truly took this as a fresh start to as many things as possible even if I had a shitty stressful day at work even if I didn't know anyone else going eventually I learned to lean into the discomfort and introduce myself to a new person and before I knew it my social calendar was full like really really full but it wasn't just breadth I was looking for yearning for depth it is so hard to make new friends in your 20s and 30s and saying yes to everything serendipitously fixed that you know that saying if you want a village you have to be a villager saying yes to everything also reminded me how to be a good villager for the people that I care about and finally let go of that hyperindependence