your kids don't owe you sh*t

@nickjaywood

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Why it worked

The video uses a provocative, counter-intuitive hook that challenges the viewer's ego, followed by empathetic, actionable advice that resonates with a specific, high-emotion audience.

Summary

A man shares advice for divorced parents on how to improve their relationship with their children by letting go of control. He emphasizes that forcing kids to spend time together is counterproductive and that parents should focus on making their time together positive.

Structure

1Acknowledge the difficulty of divorce
2Advise against forcing kids to visit
3Encourage taking personal ownership
4Explain that kids are perceptive
5Suggest focusing on quality time
6Final reminder to respect boundaries

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your kids don't owe you sh*t

Transcript

Yeah, so if you're divorced, you got to stop trying force your kids to want spend time with you. They'll come around trust me. From experience, they'll come around. And just take some ownership. There there's a reason. There like kids are not stupid. There's a reason they don't. It's not your ex's fault, just for the record. Oh, but my ex is talking bad about me, blah. You can't control that. So, make it the best experience possible when you see them, and they'll come around. Please remember, nobody wants to be forced to do anything, including kids. So, stop forcing them. Let it be on their terms, yeah? All right.

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the hardest part isn’t the divorce it’s accepting the parts you can’t control you can’t force your kids to want to come over you can’t control what your ex says about you you can’t rewrite the past all you can do is become someone your kids genuinely want to be around the rest will sort itself out