THE COMMON MISTAKES OF MEN WOULD BE

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Why it worked

The video effectively uses a relatable psychological principle (the Benjamin Franklin Effect) and applies it to a common social scenario (dating), offering practical, actionable advice in a concise format.

Summary

The video discusses the Benjamin Franklin Effect, explaining that people tend to like others more after doing them a favor. It suggests that in dating, instead of directly asking for a number, one can ask for a small favor to build connection. The speaker emphasizes that this approach should be easy and doable, not asking for something significant like money or to wash a car.

Structure

1Introduce common dating mistakes
2Explain the Benjamin Franklin Effect
3Apply the effect to dating with small favors
4Discuss how women can use this technique
5Provide examples of small favors
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Original caption

There's a psychology principle called the Ben Franklin Effect. The idea is simple: People often feel more connected to someone after helping them. Interesting, isn't it? In dating, that could be as simple as asking for a small favor instead of trying to impress someone right away. Sometimes the best conversations start naturally. Would you give this a try? Book a consult and figure out more ways to attract www.matchmakingmanila.com/consult #MatchmakingManila #CoachVee #BenFranklinEffect #DatingTips #DatingPsychology @Too Hot For Podcast

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THE COMMON MISTAKES OF MEN WOULD BE HOW SHOULD A SHY GUY APPROACH A WOMAN IN PUBLIC? IS THE BENJAMIN FRANKLIN EFFECT WHEN HE WAS RUNNING AS A PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES IS A COMPETITOR AND INSTEAD OF COMPETING WITH HIM HE WENT AND BORROWED A BOOK FROM HIS OPPONENT AS A RESULT THEY BECAME FRIENDS! WE TEND TO LIKE PEOPLE... THAT WE DO NICE THINGS FOR IF YOU ARE MY ENEMY YOU LET ME HAVE IT. WHAT WILL YOU FEEL? "THIS MAYBE DOES NOT THAT BAD" "BECAUSE IF SHE WAS THAT BAD" "I WOULD HAVE NOT LENT MY BOOK" WHEN YOU TRANSLATE THAT TO DATING AND WOMEN CAN DO THIS AS WELL INSTEAD OF APPROACHING THEM LIKE- "HEY WHAT'S YOUR NAME?" WHAT YOU DO IS: "DO YOU MIND HANDING ME THAT TISSUE" "PLEASE?" "PASSING THE WATER?" SO AFTER YOU GIVE ME WHAT I ASKED FOR I WOULD SAY LIKE "THANK YOU VERY MUCH!" "I AM VANESSA BY THE WAY" PSYCHOLOGICALLY "SHE INTRODUCED HERSELF BECAUSE I HELPED HER." THE PREMISE IS... IT HAS TO BE- IT HAS TO BE AN EASY, DOABLE TASK. IT CAN'T BE LIKE, "HEY, CAN I BORROW MONEY?" "CAN YOU WASH MY CAR?" "SO GUYS..."

Transcript

THE COMMON MISTAKES OF MEN WOULD BE "WHAT'S YOUR NUMBER?" "WHAT'S YOUR NAME?" "WHAT'S YOUR NUMBER?" PAANO? HOW DOES ONE APPROACH? SO ON THE MORE ADVANCED- COURSES THAT WE TEACH MEN ONE OF THE THEORIES THAT WE USE IS THE BENJAMIN FRANKLIN EFFECT WHEN HE WAS RUNNING AS A PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES AND HE HAS A COMPETITOR BENJAMIN FRANKLIN EFFECT PEOPLE LIKE YOU MORE AFTER DOING YOU SMALL FAVORS. AND HE HAS A COMPETITOR AND INSTEAD OF COMPETING WITH HIM HE WENT AND BORROWED A BOOK FROM HIS OPPONENT AS A RESULT THEY BECAME FRIENDS! WE TEND TO LIKE PEOPLE... THAT WE DO NICE THINGS FOR IF YOU ARE MY ENEMY YOU LET ME HAVE IT. WHAT WILL YOU FEEL? "THIS MAYBE DOES NOT THAT BAD" "BECAUSE IF SHE WAS THAT BAD" "I WOULD HAVE NOT LENT MY BOOK" WHEN YOU TRANSLATE THAT TO DATING AND WOMEN CAN DO THIS AS WELL INSTEAD OF APPROACHING THEM LIKE- "HEY WHAT'S YOUR NAME?" "HEY WHAT'S YOUR NUMBER?" WHAT YOU DO IS: "DO YOU MIND HANDING ME THAT TISSUE" "PLEASE?" "PASSING THE WATER?" SO AFTER YOU GIVE ME WHAT I ASKED FOR I WOULD SAY LIKE "THANK YOU VERY MUCH!" "I AM VANESSA BY THE WAY" PSYCHOLOGICALLY "SHE INTRODUCED HERSELF BECAUSE I HELPED HER." THE PREMISE IS... IT HAS TO BE- IT HAS TO BE AN EASY, DOABLE TASK. IT CAN'T BE LIKE, "HEY, CAN I BORROW MONEY?" "CAN YOU WASH MY CAR?" "SO GUYS..."