I confronted my best friend

I confronted my best friend about the things that and she literally said I don't think I wanna change WHAT WAS YOUR LAST STRAW BEFORE YOU LEAVE A FRIENDSHIP? Hard truth about friendship in your 20s these are the five hard truth I had to learn in my 20s about friendships 1. Our efforts won't always be reciprocated there were times yang I kasi hundred percent I kasi the effort I lah initiate the meeting the planning remember the birthday aku yang macam beria macam friendship ni one way je stop giving all those effort tiba tiba you perasan yang the friendship fade away and that is hurtful fade away and that is hurtful yes walaupun dia pedih at least you know where your mendship stands on their part friendship enough As much As you do now 2. Your biggest supporter doesnt always come from your friends As much As you do now this is why I cakap childhood friends can be overrated sometimes you perasan tak kalau you achieve something sometimes bukannya kawan kawan you yang kenal lama tu yang akan congratulate you tahu it's the strangers yang akan cakap congratulations on your achievement turns out stranger can support and clap for you louder daripada people yang you dah kenal bertahun tahun lamanya tapi tu bukan bitter that's just sometimes how life works and i hope you guys also remember that kita tak boleh ada too much expectation towards other people because everyone ada life path sendiri its okay kalau orang tu terlupa ke takpe dia orang ada life diorang, dont put too much expectations on other people because that's not fair for them 3. Boundaries can cost you certain friendships the moment you stop people pleasing the moment you start saying no confront dia orang tak leh terima and some people akan cakap macam hmm you dah berubahlah kenapa you dah tak chill macam dulu maybe you did berubah and that's okey because friendships yang tak boleh nak communicate tak boleh nak respect you punya boundaries is not a healthy friendship pun that's what happened to me waktu I confronted my friend I cakap macam okey these are the things yang I macam terasa but I do want us to be better I bagi tahu you benda ni Sebab I tak nak ada any bad blood ataupun hold grudges towards you I also want to be A better friend so do please tell me how can I be a better friend to you and she just like shut me down entirely and cakap I don't think I nak berubah and this is not for me I macam okey girl faham but you know what I'm glad sebab start daripada tu I gained so many new quality and mature friends yang actually wise yang can talk to me yang willing to grow together and most importantly tak selfish 4. Not all friendship lasts forever Not all friendship lasts forever and that's also okey sebab sometimes tak semestinya friendships tu kena end because of betrayal because dah habis season bila you dah tukar kerja bila you dah habis sekolah bila you dah habis kolej bila career dengan goals you dah berbeza and that's just life 5. Quality beats quantity Quality beats quantity also but you have to remember ramai je lagi kat luar sana yang jenis yang takut nak cut off friendship just because dia takut nak feel alone babe when It comes to friendship you have to find someone yang boleh correct you yang you boleh feel safe yang you boleh feel comfort and you boleh grow together yang boleh celebrate you yang tak takut to hurt your feeling just to make sure yang you tak be on the wrong path and I have to admit yang sangat sangat susah untuk cari orang yang macam ni but that's the thing in your twenties the goal in life you punya career but also to find your people yang suits you punya need to finding these people sometimes maksud dia untuk let go of the people yang you tak rasa macam you're at home and you tak boleh nak Express yourself enough and being in that state will cost you your mental health longer Alright that's all from me bye