I had to break up with my friend because she had no other friends.

@brittni_pristine

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The video resonated due to its relatable narrative about the complexities of friendship, particularly dealing with friends who exhibit anxious attachment and place excessive emotional burdens on others. The creator's vulnerability and detailed storytelling likely fostered a strong connection with viewers who have experienced similar situations.

Summary

The creator recounts the story of having to end a friendship with someone who exhibited clingy and demanding behavior. The friend relied heavily on the creator for social interaction and emotional support, setting rigid expectations that became unsustainable for the creator. The friendship ultimately ended after the creator set boundaries, leading to the friend's upset reaction.

Structure

1Introduction of friendship ending due to friend's lack of other connections
2Initial positive interactions and growing reliance of the friend
3Realization of the friend's lack of other social connections and rigid expectations
4Creator's attempts to introduce the friend to others and the friend's continued clinginess
5The breaking point: a series of events leading to the creator's decision to end the friendship
6The friend's reaction and the creator's explanation of boundaries

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TO BREAK UP BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T HAVE ANY OTHER FRIENDS. GONNA POST ABOUT THIS, BUT SHE LITERALLY AND ALL OF MY FRIENDS ON EVERYTHING TALK MY SHIT. WE MET BECAUSE I PURCHASED HER SERVICE, WORKING TOGETHER A LOT. AND OVER TIME, ME TO HANG OUTSIDE OF WORK. TOTALLY, DUDE. LIKE, I'M ALWAYS OPEN TO NEW FRIENDS. OBSERVED THAT SHE DIdN'T REALLY HAVE ANY OTHER FRIENDS, WHICH AT FIRST ME AS A RED FLAG, BECAUSE, LIKE, IT TAKES L A. TRANSPLANTS A FIND THEIR PEOPLE. SO I STARTED INTRODUCING HER TO MY OTHER FRIENDS. THINK IT WAS WEIRD THAT SHE, LIKE, NEVER REALLY HIT IT OFF WITH ANYONE. INVITE ME TO ALL THE TIME, LIKE CLUBS AND RAVES. THOSE ACTIVITIES ARE NOT MY FIRST CHOICE OF ACTIVITY, BUT SHE HAD NO ONE ELSE TO GO WITH, SO I FELT PRESSURED. AND IF I SAID NO, OKAY, LIKE, WHEN CAN IN MY HEAD, I WAS LIKE, OKAY, LIKE DOING THESE THINGS, BUT IF I OUT WITH HER NEW PEOPLE, LIKE, MAYBE SHE'LL FIND HER PEOPLE. AND SHE WOULD BUT SHE'D BE LIKE, MMM, NO, THEM THAT MUCH. TO BECOME CLEAR THAT HER RIGID STANDARDS FOR DATING, EXTREMELY RIGID STANDARDS, ALSO APPLIED TO FRIENDSHIP. A PHASE OF WANTED TO PARTY, WANTED TO CLUB OUT. I'M IN A PHASE OF LIFE WHERE I AND I'M A MOTHER AND I HAVE OTHER FRIENDS THAT I WASN'T SEEING TO SEE HER, LIKE, AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK, AND IF I ONCE A WEEK, HER ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT UGLY HEAD THAT DO YOU STILL LOVE ME? TEXTS. I FINALLY REACHED WHEN SHE INVITED SINGLES EVENT THAT I FRANKLY SHOULDN'T HAVE THE SINGLES EVENT OWN STORY, BUT THE SHORT THAT WE WENT TO THE SINGLES EVENT, TO GO TO AND THEN SHE GO TO A THIRD LOCATION, NOT WANT TO THIRD LOCATION, CLUB. SO I FINALLY BOWED OUT. AND SHE TOLD TIME I SAW WAS UPSET WITH ME. WAS, I ONLY ASKED YOU FOR ONE THING, AT WHICH POINT BECAUSE ALL YOU DO IS ASK AND THAT ENTIRE EVENING WAS FOR YOU. AND AGAIN, THERE'S LIKE, I STARTED FROM MY OTHER FRIENDS ACTUALLY REALLY MEAN TO THEM. THESE FEELINGS OF BEING JUST VERY AND STRESSED OUT MY FRIENDS ARE SHE IS KIND OF EVIL TO THEM. UP TO A DO YOU STILL LOVE ME? AND I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE. I DO LOVE YOU, BUT I CANNOT BE ANYONE'S EVERYTHING. I EXPLAINED HOW TO HER, AND SHE BASICALLY WAS LIKE, WOW, WANTED YOU TO TELL ME THAT AND THAT I'M SO THE RESPONSE TO ME TELLING WAS BASICALLY, UM, I REALLY JUST EMOTIONALLY REGULATE ME. AND I DO GENUINELY FEEL HORRIBLE I BASICALLY HAVE LEFT HER ALONE. BUT SHE DIDN'T EVER REALLY CARED ABOUT CHANGING. THAT I COULDN'T CONTINUE TO BE HER BOYFRIEND AND HER BEST FRIEND AND HER THERAPIST AND HER ONLY SUPPORT SYSTEM.

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I had to break up with my friend because she had no other friends

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Transcript

I had to break up with a friend because she didn't have any other friends. Originally I wasn't gonna post about this, but she literally and all of my friends on everything. Talk my shit. We met because I purchased her service, working together a lot. And over time, she started asking me to hang out outside of work. And I was like, yeah, totally, dude. Like, I'm always open to new friends. Over time, I observed that she didn't really have any other friends, which at first did not strike me as a red flag, because, like, it takes LA transplants a long time to find their people. So I started introducing her to my other friends. And I did think it was weird that she, like, never really hit it off with anyone. She would invite me to things that I wanted to do all the time, like clubs and raves. Those activities are not my first choice of activity, but she had no one else to go with, so I felt pressured. And if I said no, she'd be like, okay, well, next week, like, when can you go? In my head, I was like, okay, like doing these things, but if I continue to go out with her and we meet new people, like, maybe she'll find her people. And she would meet people, but she'd be like, mmm, no, I don't like them that much. And it started to become clear that her rigid standards for dating, extremely rigid standards, also applied to friendship. She was in a phase of life where she wanted to party, wanted to club out. I'm in a phase of life where I am a partner and I have other friends that I wasn't seeing to see her, like, at least once a week. And if I didn't see her once a week, her anxious attachment would rear its ugly head. That do you still love me? Texts. I finally reached a breaking point when she invited me to a singles event that I frankly shouldn't have been at. The singles event is its own story, but the short of it is that we went to the singles event, she asked me to go to a second location, and then she asked me to go to a third location, not want to go to a third location, which was a club. So I finally bowed out. And she told me the next time I saw her was upset with me. Her verbiage was, I only asked you for one thing. At which point I lost my mind because all you do is ask and that entire evening was for you. And again, there's like, I started from my other friends actually really mean to them. I'm feeling these feelings of being just very pressured and stressed out. My friends are like, she is kind of evil to them. And I wake up to a text from her that says, do you still love me? And I was like, I can't do this anymore. I was like, I do love you, but I cannot be anyone's everything. I explained how to her, and she basically was like, wow, wanted you to tell me that and that I'm. So the response to me telling her was basically, um, I really just need you to emotionally regulate me. And I do genuinely feel horrible that I basically have left her alone. But she didn't ever really cared about changing that I couldn't continue to be her boyfriend and her best friend and her therapist and her only support system.