I'll be frank

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Why it worked

The video resonates because it offers a counter-intuitive perspective on forgiveness, directly addressing the pain caused by narcissistic abuse and validating the decision not to forgive as a form of self-preservation and healing.

Summary

A psychologist explains why she chooses not to forgive narcissistic individuals in her life, stating that the harm they caused changed her self-perception and took away her sense of safety. She believes that true healing comes from individuation and becoming one's authentic self, which may not always involve forgiveness.

Structure

1Stating a personal boundary regarding forgiveness for narcissists
2Explaining the deep impact of narcissistic abuse
3Describing the long process of healing and self-doubt
4Contrasting forgiveness with self-preservation
5Defining healing as individuation and authenticity

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THE SCHOOL OF GREATNESS Top psychologist & narcissism EXPERT opens up about why she DOESN'T forgive the narcissistic people in her life ❤️

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Why forgiveness ISN’T always the answer 🤯❤️‍🩹 Top psychologist & narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula explains 🙏 Do you agree? Let me know your thoughts in the comments 💭 #narcissist #healing #narcissism #toxicrelationship #forgiveness

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I'll be frank with you, Lewis, I have a- probably a half a dozen people, narcissistic people in my life. I am now no contact with. Some contact with. I don't forgive them. I will never forgive them. Really? Never. Even if you never I don't speak to them again. I will never forgive them. I will never forgive them. What they did to me. Because it changed on myself. I spent years crawling out from under that rubble. I still doubt myself. I still don't feel safe in the world. They took away how the hell forgive that? How do you forgive that? I don't, and I sleep fine at night. I guess. As long as you feel at peace. I feel totally at peace. Well, that's good. What bothers me is they're out there to other people. How do you that? That's frustrating. Frustrating. How do we find peace even if we that people definitely feel peace. Are the people who forgive getting harmed. Are the people who forgive weren't ready to forgive. Narcissistic abuse is individuating, becoming autonomous and ultimately rising into your authentic self. That's what it is. Your authentic self may not forgive. And that's okay.