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Why it worked

The video likely performed well due to its relatable and emotionally resonant topic of relationship advice, specifically focusing on pre-marital questions that address deep-seated personal history and its impact on a partnership.

Summary

The video features a discussion about important questions to ask a partner before getting engaged or married. The speaker emphasizes understanding a partner's past traumatic experiences and how they might affect their present behavior and worldview.

Structure

1Introduction of the topic: questions to ask before engagement.
2Defining the core question: partner's most traumatic experience.
3Explaining the impact of past trauma on present relationships.
4The importance of understanding and clearing one's 'lens'.
5The goal is to help see beyond past experiences.

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If someone was Don't get engaged to your partner until you ask them THIS question What is the most traumatic you've had in your life, and how does the residue of that experience show up in your present? That's a big one. Wow. And we're all a little crazy. And if you have normalized that was traumatic, then you have sleeping with the enemy. Wow. I need to know that You know what hurts you? What changed the way that you see the world? Because I want to help you clear your lens. I'm not asking have the lens. I just want you to understand how it shows up right now. And what do I need to do to help you see beyond what happened to you?

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The no. 1 question to ask your partner BEFORE you get engaged 🤯 Bestselling author Sarah Jakes Roberts explains why ❤️‍🩹 Will you try this? #relationships #dating #engagement #datingadvice #marriage

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Transcript

If someone was looking to get engaged or married to their partner with right now, what would you say are three mandatory they should ask their partner before marriage? What is the most traumatic you've had in your life, and how does the residue of that experience show up in your present? That's a big one. Wow. And we're all a little crazy. And if you have normalized that was traumatic, then you have sleeping with the enemy. Wow. I need to know that you know what hurts you? What changed the way that you see the world? Because I want to help you clear your lens. I'm not asking have the lens. I just want you to understand how it shows up right now. And what do I need to do to help you see beyond what happened to you?