How to ruin every relationship in your life

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Why it worked

The video uses a contrarian approach by explaining how to ruin relationships, which is attention-grabbing. It then flips this to explain how to do the opposite to build quality relationships, making the advice relatable and actionable. The inclusion of a Maya Angelou quote adds credibility and emotional resonance.

Summary

The video outlines five ways to ruin relationships: making every conversation about yourself, keeping score of wrongdoings, punishing honesty, only being present when in need, and never being accountable. It emphasizes that genuine relationships are built on listening, forgiveness, and accountability, drawing on a quote from Maya Angelou.

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1Introduction: The opposite of ruining relationships leads to quality ones
2Maya Angelou quote on feelings
3Step 1: Making conversations about yourself
4Step 2: Keeping score of wrongdoings
5Step 3: Punishing honesty
6Step 4: Being present only when in need
7Step 5: Never being accountable

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How to ruin every relationship in your life (5 easy steps) how to ruin in your life opposite of this and if you of these you're gonna and make quality relationships people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. MAYA ANGELOU said this first people forget people can you did never forget made them feel that person that to be around this for later 1. making every conversation about yourself making every about you as humans we for a reason and that's to listen make every about yourself people stop you real thoughts and they just go want to be present 2. keeping score on wrong doings keeping score the day you tabs on every did to you learning how to love treat your with people 3. punishing honesty punishing people for being brutally honest with you is your they will stab front with the truth who don't care actually stab you in the back behind your back 4. only being present when in need only showing up need something relationship with people never really transactions 5. never being accountable accountability and apologizing wrong doing sorry for how isn't a it's blaming having feelings reason costs you a fake apology costs your entire relationship relationships don't one big fight break slowly from habits and repeated that could any point be that person for more

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How to ruin every relationship in your life (5 easy steps) How to ruin every relationship in your life. How hear me out, I'm doing the exact opposite of this. And if you do the opposite of these five things, you're gonna preserve and make quality relationships with people. Maya Angelou said this first. People forget what you said. People forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. So if you feel that person that no one wants to be around, make sure to save this for later. 1. Making every conversation about yourself. Making every conversation about you. As humans, we have two ears for a reason and that's to listen. And when you make every conversation about yourself, people stop actually telling you real thoughts and they just go quiet and never want to be present. 2. Keeping score on wrongdoings. Keeping score. They start keeping tabs on every wrong that someone did to you. You stop learning how to love and you treat your relationship with people as a transaction. 3. Punishing honesty. Punishing people for being brutally honest with you. If someone is your real friend, they will stab you in the front with the truth. Only people who don't care about you actually stab you in the back and complain behind your back. 4. Only being present when in need. Only showing up when you need something. This turns a relationship that you have with people into a transaction. Never really taking accountability and apologizing for your wrongdoings. Saying I'm sorry for how you feel isn't a real apology. It's blaming them for having feelings. The reason why we do this is because a real apology costs you your pride. A fake apology costs your entire relationship. Relationships don't break over one big fight. They break slowly from habits and repeated behaviors that could have been solved at any point. So don't be that person for more.