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POV: You're my friend who is coparenting with a controlling, abusive ex and you want to make damn sure your kids can't be turned against you

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Why it worked

The video resonated with viewers by addressing a sensitive and common issue of coparenting with a difficult ex-partner, offering validation and a sense of shared experience through personal storytelling.

Summary

The creator addresses a friend who is coparenting with a controlling and abusive ex, emphasizing the importance of speaking up to protect their children from being turned against them. She shares her own experience and the fear associated with confronting the ex, highlighting the ex's tactics of manipulation.

Structure

1Setting the scene: coparenting with an abusive ex
2The ex's manipulation tactics
3The cost of staying silent
4The creator's personal experience
5The daughter's distress

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POV: You're my friend who is coparenting with a controlling, abusive ex and you want to make damn sure your kids can't be turned against you Here's what I'd tell you to do

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There’s a cost to staying quiet. He is actively, methodically, and consistently filling their heads with his twisted lies and narrative. And every day you wait for your kids to see the truth on their own, your ex is winning them over. He’s counting on you to stay quiet. He’s counting on your fear of pushing your kids away. He’s counting on you letting him do and say whatever he wants. I lived this. Same man. Same tactics. Same fear. But when my daughter came home with tears in her eyes saying, “Mom I don’t know who to believe” something in me broke. So instead of waiting and hoping she’d figure it out on her own — I got strategic. Without trash talking him. Without putting her in the middle. Calm and strategic. I planted the truth in her mind. So when he lied about me, she had something real to compare it to. I strengthened our bond deliberately. So she knew without a single doubt I was her rock. Always. My daughter trusted me. She felt safe with me. Our bond became unbreakable — no matter what he said or did. That’s exactly what the Empower Your Kids Method is. It’s the method good moms use when they realize silence and waiting isn’t keeping their kids close and protecting their bond. Comment METHOD for the rest of the strategy. #narcissisticabuse #divorce #singlemomlife #parentalalienation #coparentingstruggles