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You're a single mom divorcing a narcissist, watching your kids love the man who tried to destroy you

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The video taps into a deeply emotional and relatable struggle for many single parents, particularly those dealing with narcissistic ex-partners, offering validation and a sense of empowerment through shared experience and a strong, principled stance.

Summary

A single mother discusses the difficult decision of not speaking ill of her ex-husband to their children, despite his narcissistic behavior. She emphasizes teaching her child to trust their own judgment and recognize unhealthy dynamics rather than simply denigrating the father.

Structure

1Introduction to the dilemma of a single mom divorcing a narcissist
2Questioning the idea of protecting the father's image to the children
3Refusal to let children believe abuse equals love
4Teaching children to trust themselves and recognize truth

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You're a single mom divorcing a narcissist, watching your kids love the man who tried to destroy you Keeping your mouth shut letting them believe he's Dad of the Year Hell, no. We don't do that here.

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Never say anything bad about him, right? So, we’re supposed to gaslight our kids letting them believe their dad is trustworthy, a safe person and that he loves them? Hell, no. I refused to my child grow up thinking abuse equals love. I refused to let her believe her dad was safe when he wasn’t. I didn’t turn her against him. I didn’t trash talk him. And I didn’t stay silent. I taught her to recognize when something wasn’t right. How to trust herself. How to see the truth without me telling her what to think. Shielding our kids and pretending that everything is fine, that dad is safe, and that he loves them is not helping them. So I taught my kid to see the truth for herself. Safely. Strategically. Without trash talking her dad. Making sure she knew exactly who he was so his lies and manipulation stopped hurting her. And it worked. There’s a better way to lead your child through this. The Empower Your Kids Method is calm and strategic. It protects your kids minds without putting them in the middle or making things worse. This is the method all moms use when they realize silence isn’t protecting their kids anymore. Comment METHOD for the rest of the strategy. #divorce #narcissisticabuse #stepmom #singlemoms #coparenting