the baby decision & mummy issues

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The video likely resonated with viewers due to its raw and honest exploration of a deeply personal and often difficult life decision. The creator's vulnerability in discussing her complex family relationships and the emotional weight of wanting children without a maternal role model likely fostered a strong sense of relatability and encouraged engagement through comments and shares.

Summary

The creator discusses the mental toll of deciding whether to have children, especially given her strained relationship with her mother and lack of a maternal support system. She reflects on the fear of repeating her own family dynamics and the complexities of navigating this decision without a mother figure.

Structure

1Introduction to the dilemma of deciding on having children
2Explanation of personal circumstances: no relationship with mother
3Reflection on the impact of this lack of maternal support
4Consideration of future implications if she were to have children
5Concluding thoughts on the emotional weight of the decision

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the baby decision & mummy issues

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deciding if I want to be a mum when I don’t talk to mine and my greatest fear is turning into mine kinda stinks and takes up waayyyy to much of my brain 🙃 #nocontact #havingkids #mummyissues #lifeinyour30s #thebabydecision

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Transcript

me while I ran, but being 32, nearly 33, and going through like the mental of deciding if you want kids is like it's rough. Um I think about it all the time, as would say. The other layer to that for me personally is that I do not have a relationship with my mom. I've been no contact with her for over a year. I don't talk to my dad, because he doesn't talk to me because of my mum's situation, and And that has always been a massive factor for me. I live in the city with my husband. I obviously have like a great community of friends around me, but not having that not having a mom in my life is it's just an interesting thing to grapple with, mainly because I one, I don't have a mom and like that support system. two the idea that I would have maybe have a kid and then they would have been in no contact with me. I don't know, this whole thing of like me thinking that I'm going to turn to my mum or the fact that I have to I I I don't know do I have to tell my mum if we decide to have a kid like do I open up the door to that I don't know there's just a million fucking other things that are involved, not just the idea of being like yeah, let's have a baby. For a long time I wasn't sure what my stance was on having kids. I've had a lot of like mental health things over the last couple of years where I never really felt like me, and I really do feel good, like I feel like after being for two years and after being diagnosed with a year, like I feel really good about me and my life and me and my husband and everything like that. But yeah, the thing that is just always in the back of my head is my relationship with my mum and it really me off really. It me off that that is the thing that is like part of my . And yes, this is probably a conversation for my therapist and I probably I don't even know if I want advice. I probably don't want advice. I just want to rent. So, thank you for listening to my.