AFTER SERVICE NEW ORLEANS, LA

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The video resonated due to its relatable theme of relationship struggles and the powerful, faith-based solution offered. The personal anecdote about the mother's unwavering faith and its positive outcome provided a compelling narrative that likely inspired viewers.

Summary

A young man shares his experience of being newly married at 19 and seeking guidance on how to avoid past relationship behaviors affecting his current marriage. He emphasizes the importance of focusing on God and faith rather than humanistic efforts to change oneself or a partner.

Structure

1Introduction of the speaker and his situation (newly married, young)
2Question about overcoming past relationship behaviors in a new marriage
3Emphasis on prioritizing God and faith over self-effort
4Anecdote about the speaker's mother and her faith in changing his father
5The speaker's father and brother being saved due to his mother's faith
6Concluding advice on relying on God and faith as the 'center line' for relationships

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AFTER SERVICE NEW ORLEANS, LA Unlearning Behaviors From My Ex *the wife* You don't see that a lot. Good job. What are some questions that me and my wife can bring in fellowship with God that can help us overcome or maybe allow us to not let past relationship behaviors bleed into our new one? *nervous* So it starts with edifying Christ above everything else. Matthew 6:33 says, "Seek ye the kingdom and all those will be added." You guys cannot meet horizontally, you have to meet vertically. A lot of us, we try to meet, "Okay, let me forgive her, rather, instead of changing your person, go to God about your person. "Father God, I have this. I'm stressing with this behavioral pattern, envy, whatever it is, talk to God about it. Because that's not just your wife, that's His daughter. Who has more power to sway her, to move her heart? God. In the same way, my mother, she was hardcore Buddhist, tried to serve my father. In our religion and culture, the woman has to submit to the man. My dad was an alcoholic. Beat on us. Divorce is not an option. But the beautiful thing is, when she recognized "I can't do anything for my husband, she then started to try to, like, preach the Gospel to him. He actually beat her more because of that. So pastor told, "Who can change your husband? I mean, you've tried for 20 plus years. You have to give it up to God." He gave her 2 Corinthians 5:7, "We walk by faith, not by sight." And she started to say some crazy stuff. I thought my mom was cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. Right? She was like, "I have the world's best husband." And I was like, "Mom, you're crazy." But she kept saying that. "No, this is the world's best husband because God will change him." My father is now saved, my brother's saved. Amen? You too brother, that same God that's working for me will also work for you. As you come together through the Gospel, and she comes more about the Gospel you guys will have that as the center line, because if you're like, "I'm going to try to change, I'm going to do better." it's okay to have that, but that's humanistic effort. You'll try for a little bit and you'll fail, but if you keep it real with yourself, "Oh, I can't do this." that's when the light enters. Okay? All righty, brother. Thank you.

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I'm newly married, and I'm 19 years old. Oh, Amen! Thank you. You don't see that a lot. Good job. What are some questions that me and my wife can bring in fellowship with God that can help us overcome or maybe allow us to not let past relationship behaviors bleed into our new one? So it starts with edifying Christ above everything else. Matthew 6:33 says, "Seek ye the kingdom and all those will be added." You guys cannot meet horizontally, you have to meet vertically. A lot of us, we try to meet, "Okay, let me forgive her, rather, instead of changing your person, go to God about your person. "Father God, I have this. I'm stressing with this behavioral pattern, envy, whatever it is, talk to God about it. Because that's not just your wife, that's His daughter. Who has more power to sway her, to move her heart? God. In the same way, my mother, she was hardcore Buddhist, tried to serve my father. In our religion and culture, the woman has to submit to the man. My dad was an alcoholic. Beat on us. Divorce is not an option. But the beautiful thing is, when she recognized "I can't do anything for my husband, she then started to try to, like, preach the Gospel to him. He actually beat her more because of that. So pastor told, "Who can change your husband? I mean, you've tried for 20 plus years. You have to give it up to God." He gave her 2 Corinthians 5:7, "We walk by faith, not by sight." And she started to say some crazy stuff. I thought my mom was cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. Right? She was like, "I have the world's best husband." And I was like, "Mom, you're crazy." But she kept saying that. "No, this is the world's best husband because God will change him." My father is now saved, my brother's saved. Amen? You too brother, that same God that's working for me will also work for you. As you come together through the Gospel, and she comes more about the Gospel you guys will have that as the center line, because if you're like, "I'm going to try to change, I'm going to do better." it's okay to have that, but that's humanistic effort. You'll try for a little bit and you'll fail, but if you keep it real with yourself, "Oh, I can't do this." that's when the light enters. Okay? All righty, brother. Thank you.