Unfortunately I do enjoy being meaner to someone who was mean to me first

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The video likely resonated due to its relatable, albeit unconventional, take on interpersonal conflict and revenge. The speaker's direct and unapologetic articulation of a common, though often suppressed, desire to "fight fire with fire" likely struck a chord with viewers who have experienced similar situations.

Summary

The speaker expresses a personal philosophy of reciprocating meanness, stating they will be meaner to those who were mean to them first. They justify this by saying the other person set the tone and gave permission, making it "fair game" to respond in kind, even adding a service fee. They reject the idea of always being the "bigger person" and find satisfaction in matching or exceeding the meanness directed at them.

Structure

1Introduction of the philosophy of reciprocating meanness
2Justification: setting the tone and permission
3Adding a 'service fee' to the meanness
4Rejection of being the 'bigger person'
5Finding satisfaction in matching or exceeding meanness
6Concluding thought on adapting to the other person's behavior

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Unfortunately I do enjoy being meaner to someone who was mean to me first

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I’m not gonna be mean first but I will be meaner after #mean #unfortunately #meantome

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Transcript

Unfortunately I do enjoy being meaner to someone who was mean to me first. I can't really blame me. I'm gonna be nice at first. I'm not gonna go out of my way and just be mean for no reason. But once you do something to me, you're rude to me, you're rude to someone that I care about. It's over. You've given me permission. And thank you for that. Because now I don't have to question it. I don't have to question, am I overreacting? Am I being too dramatic? Did they not mean it that way? Like, no, you meant it that way. And now everything's fair game because you set the tone. And I'm just matching it. And actually, I'm gonna add a 20% service fee too. Everybody always says, be the bigger person. Ignore it. Move on from it. It's like, no, I don't want to be the bigger person. I've done that before. It's exhausting up here. I want to come down and play with everybody else. I want to come down and participate. And why does the person get to be rude to everybody else? But the other people, they just have to take it. They just have to be the bigger person. Why do they always have to be the bigger person? It doesn't make any sense. And it's funny because when you're mean to that person, you're mean to them, you do it better than them. You're more mean than they were. They don't understand. They're like, why are you being mean to me? It's like, okay, so you did understand. So you just did that knowing that that's how that feels. I'm gonna give everybody kindness by default. But if you decide we're doing something different today, then I can adapt.