The anxiety on Results Day doesn't just belong to our teenagers, mums and parents feel it too ",

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The video resonates with parents by acknowledging and validating their anxieties about their children's academic performance. It offers practical, empathetic advice that empowers parents to support their children emotionally, which is a common concern for many.

Summary

The video offers advice to parents on how to manage their anxiety on their children's results day. The speaker emphasizes that parents should not internalize their children's results as their own failure and should focus on providing a safe emotional space for their children, rather than projecting their own anxieties. The advice includes reminding children that they are the same person regardless of their results and encouraging parents to let their children feel their emotions before offering solutions.

Structure

1Introduction: Parents also feel anxiety on results day.
2Reminder 1: Children's results are not the parents' results.
3Reminder 2: Parents should manage their own anxiety to be a safe space for their children.
4Reminder 3: Children are the same person regardless of results.
5Reminder 4: Don't rush to fix; let children feel their emotions first.
6Reminder 5: There is always another route; parents are not alone.

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The anxiety on Results Day doesn't just belong to our teenagers, mums and parents feel it too ", We talk about results day as mums. because I because I don't think we talk enough about what it is like for us as mums, I don't think enough of that is shared. And And the night before the exam results, if I'm honest with you, you're probably not gonna sleep very well because because your mind is gonna be racing through every possible outcome, every type every type of emotion that you want to support your child through. Even though you know you can't change a thing, you want to you want to foreshadow every kind of outcome. So So here are my So here are my 5 reminders for you for you as a mom, as a parent. And this might just help you a little with your anxiety, too. So. No. 1. Their their results. Your child's results are not your results. It's them. It's all their results. So if they didn't get what they hoped for, it doesn't mean it doesn't mean that you failed as a mom or as a parent. It is It is not a reflection on you. No. 2. Try not to let. Try Try not to let your anxiety become their you You are already carrying enough. So if you can stay calm on the outside, it gives them it gives them somewhere safe to land so they can be safe with their emotions. They don't need to know your emotions. They're not relevant. Number Number three. Before Before it all happens, just remind yourself is exactly the same person that they were last last week, last month. Piece of paper, some some numbers, whatever. It doesn't change It doesn't change who they are. And my And my 4th tip. Please don't rush to fix So whether So whether they're completely over the moon or they're completely devastated, let them have let them have that moment of whatever their feelings before you before you jump into the solution. Let them feel their own emotions first. Don't project yours. And No. whatever happens, keep reminding keep reminding them and yourself there is always another So this day, this it feels it feels enormous, but it doesn't. Doesn't define Doesn't define the rest of your life. So if you're a lying awake, waking up with a knot in your stomach, worrying, Not. Not because you don't trust them or just because you're a mum, you're you're not alone. I'm thinking of you. And we have got this. And we can be their safe space, no matter what.

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If you’re lying awake the night before Results Day, constantly playing out every possible scenario in your head, this is for you. We spend years cheering them on, helping with revision, worrying about their wellbeing and hoping they’ll get the opportunities they deserve. So of course we feel anxious too. But here’s the reminder I needed: ✨ Their results are not a reflection of your parenting. ✨ Your calm can become their safe place. ✨ Whatever happens tomorrow, they will still need your love more than your advice. To every mum with a knot in her stomach tonight you’re not alone. Take a deep breath before you walk through those school gates. However the day unfolds, your child is still the same wonderful person they were yesterday. I’m sending love to every family collecting results this week. 🤍 Have you got a teenager collecting results this year? I’d love to know how you’re both feeling. #mumofteens #gcse #examresults #resultsday #alevels

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We talk about results day as mums. because I because I don't think we talk enough about what it is like for us as mums, I don't think enough of that is shared. And And the night before the exam results, if I'm honest with you, you're probably not gonna sleep very well because because your mind is gonna be racing through every possible outcome, every type every type of emotion that you want to support your child through. Even though you know you can't change a thing, you want to you want to foreshadow every kind of outcome. So So here are my So here are my 5 reminders for you for you as a mom, as a parent. And this might just help you a little with your anxiety, too. So. No. 1. Their their results. Your child's results are not your results. It's them. It's all their results. So if they didn't get what they hoped for, it doesn't mean it doesn't mean that you failed as a mom or as a parent. It is It is not a reflection on you. No. 2. Try not to let. Try Try not to let your anxiety become their you You are already carrying enough. So if you can stay calm on the outside, it gives them it gives them somewhere safe to land so they can be safe with their emotions. They don't need to know your emotions. They're not relevant. Number Number three. Before Before it all happens, just remind yourself is exactly the same person that they were last last week, last month. Piece of paper, some some numbers, whatever. It doesn't change It doesn't change who they are. And my And my 4th tip. Please don't rush to fix So whether So whether they're completely over the moon or they're completely devastated, let them have let them have that moment of whatever their feelings before you before you jump into the solution. Let them feel their own emotions first. Don't project yours. And No. 5. whatever happens, keep reminding keep reminding them and yourself there is always another So this day, this it feels it feels enormous, but it doesn't. Doesn't define Doesn't define the rest of your life. So if you're a lying awake, waking up with a knot in your stomach, worrying, Not. Not because you don't trust them or just because you're a mum, you're you're not alone. I'm thinking of you. And we have got this. And we can be their safe space, no matter what.