Daddy Issues = Fear of Being Seen Visibility wound 💔

daddy issues visibility wound daddy issues visibility wound daddy issues equals fear of being seen daddy issues equals fear of being seen let's discuss it hi my name is Niké (knee-k) and I teach you all things neuroscience let's do it the father wound shows up in people with the visibility wound every single time daddy issues isn't about wanting to be seen or wanting attention usually it's about fear of being seen actually and I've never understood why men think it's an insult to call someone daddy oh you have daddy issues I would argue that men actually have more daddy issues than women do here's what research says about how the father wound eventually shows up as a visibility wound in your adult life when a father is absent emotionally unavailable inconsistent or walks away from the family especially a child's developing brain can begin asking am I worth staying for and that question can follow you into adulthood you may desperately want recognition but when you actually receive it you become uncomfortable with it you hide your talents you procrastinate when it's time to put yourself out there you don't promote your business you make yourself smaller in relationships you struggle to accept compliments you wanna be seen you're terrified of being seen disability wound is not weakness when you guys come to my coaching calls link in bio by the way and you say I wanna start social media but I'm terrified of being judged I don't wanna put that camera in my face cause people can judge me the first thing I ask every single time I've never been wrong is what's your relationship like with your dad and usually they tell me he left when I was really young or he was in and out or he wasn't very affectionate he wasn't very kind he was cold and I go huh there in lies the answer every single time the brain will go into protection mode when the father is not in the household and men I need you to be honest about this we have to change something in our society you have to be present in the household do you understand it is the most vital thing to a child I always say this women nurture children men raise children you have to do better no child and I mean none should have to grow up wondering if they were enough or not enough what was wrong with them why didn't you stay I understand that relationships break apart all the time all the time that happens however it does not mean that you should break your children's heart because you and their mother are no longer together do you understand but here's a hope epigenetics you can always rewrite history you can always rewrite that gene you can always rewrite the neuro pathways your brain created to protect you and here are two ways one practice being seen practice makes perfect right post that video post that video that's sitting in your draft for the past 30 days and you keep saying oh it's not good enough speak up for yourself accept compliments share your ideas be audacious stop deleting yourself before anyone gets a chance to do it to you we suffer more in our brain than we actually do in real life be bold every time you survive being visible the amygdala calms down you calm down and you do it again and again and again number two stop waiting for validation validate yourself when you guys come to my coaching calls you tell me all the time I just wish he would apologize I just wish he would explain himself it's not it's not gonna happen it's not going to happen and if it does happen it shouldn't matter at all your healing should not depend on someone else understanding the kind of what they did to you radical accountability right they did it okay it sucks okay now give that love to yourself re raise yourself validate yourself you need to decide that you are worthy of being seen as a matter of fact I need you to to write it below in the comment section I am worthy of being seen he failed as a father to make you feel seen right but it's not giving you stop auditioning for the love he should have given you freely give it to yourself show up for yourself put yourself out there our past explains us but we should never ever let it define you and if you believe that it ends with you right that you'll be a better man for your children and your sons will be better men for their sons and their daughters I want you to join me I'm inviting you to my master class break the cycle Sunday August 23rd Sunday August 23rd at 2:00 PM EST two PM Eastern Time I want men in this master class because something has to change I believe in you and I pray you always believe in yourself get my book yes yes you can have it all stay fabulous bye bye