whenever you feel a negative emotion come up,

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The video offers practical advice on emotional regulation, a topic with broad appeal, and frames it within a personal narrative, making it relatable and engaging. The creator's vulnerability and direct address to the viewer encourage self-reflection.

Summary

The creator discusses how to handle negative emotions by pausing and asking if the reaction serves one's higher self. She explains that reacting out of anger or past family patterns can be temporary and unhelpful, suggesting instead to choose a different reaction. She shares that her own toxic trait has been to shut down and avoid communication when feeling negative emotions.

Structure

1Identify negative emotions
2Pause and question the reaction
3Recognize toxic patterns

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@4you_languageapp Pause before you react - does this serve your higher self? 🧘‍♀️ Can you shadow this without pausing? 🎧 Practice real English and speak more naturally. 🗣️ Watch more in the 4You app 👀 #learnenglish #shadowing #4You #emotionalregulation #mindsetshift

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4You language app: it is mentioned in the caption and the creator's bio link leads to it. It is implied to be an app for practicing English and improving emotional regulation and mindset. The creator's name and handle also reference "4You".

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ask yourself: does this serve my higher self and is that going to get me the solution that I want in this situation? shut down quiet avoid problem

Transcript

whenever you feel a negative emotion come up, I want you to take a step back and think, is me expressing this negative emotion, let's say you feel angry and then obviously you want to act on that emotion, does that serve my higher self and is that going to get me the solution that I want in this situation? If the answer is no and really it's just an emotional reaction which is going to be temporary and it's just fitting into your old cycles and patterns that you may have experienced in not being emotionally regulated or maybe it reflects back to how your family have treated you or your parents patterns which are being passed down to you then you know to nip it in the bud and choose a different reaction instead. I cannot tell you how many times this has saved me. A particular mode of behavior was shown to me consistently growing up by all of my family members because they all reacted in like heated and tense situations in the exact same way and naturally that's exactly what I want to do as well. I want to shut down, I want to be quiet and I don't want to communicate the problem. This has been my toxic trait in every relationship I've ever been in, okay? Putting my hands up, telling the truth.