STITCH INCOMING Her Only Fault Was Trusting Her Friend

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The video addresses a highly sensitive and relevant social issue, using expert commentary to explain complex psychological factors behind sexual assault. It combines a specific case with broader societal implications, offering actionable advice and resources, which resonates with a concerned audience.

Summary

This video discusses a lawsuit against Cornell University and the Chi Phi fraternity regarding alleged sexual assault. The speaker, a psychiatrist and trauma researcher, explains psychological factors like diffusion of responsibility and substance use that can contribute to such incidents. She emphasizes the importance of looking out for each other and standing up for what is right, referencing Amanda Nguyen's charity event as an example of support for survivors.

Structure

1Introduction of the Cornell Chi Phi lawsuit and trigger warning.
2Explanation of psychological factors contributing to sexual assault (diffusion of responsibility, substance use).
3Discussion of how universities may protect fraternities.
4Explanation of trauma responses like dissociation.
5Call to action for mutual protection and support for survivors, referencing Amanda Nguyen's event.

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Cornell University: appears as a university logo and is the subject of a lawsuit and investigation. Removing it would change the topic of the video. Chi Phi: appears as a fraternity name and is the subject of a lawsuit. Removing it would change the topic of the video. Amanda Nguyen: appears as a person who held a charity event. Removing her name would change the topic of the video.

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⚠️ CW: sèxùal assault, Share this with someone who needs it. A former Cornell student says she was drugged and assaulted by fraternity members, and that one of them used a group chat to invite the others in. No criminal charges were filed. Now she’s suing Cornell. These are allegations from a civil lawsuit, but the questions they raise aren’t new: why does this keep happening, why do schools go easy on it, and what can we do? If this is your story too: it wasn’t your fault, and you deserve support 💜 📞 GET HELP NOW • RAINN hotline: 800-656-HOPE (4673) or online.rainn.org @rainn @RAINN • 988 Sùìcide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988 @988lifeline @988 Lifeline • Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741 @crisistextline @Crisis Text Line ✊ KNOW YOUR RIGHTS & GET INVOLVED • Rise (risenow.us): founded by survivor Amanda Nguyen, who wrote the Survivors’ Bill of Rights and got it passed unanimously by Congress. Rise helps everyday people pass their own laws. @risenow.us @amandangocnguyen @Amanda Nguyen @Rise • Know Your IX (knowyourix.org): your rights under Title IX @knowyour9 @Know Your Rights Camp • End Rápe on Campus (endrapeoncampus.org): support for campus survivors @endrapeoncampus @eroc 👀 Be the bystander who acts. Watch your friends’ drinks. If someone can’t stand, they can’t consent. Get them out. Share this with someone who needs it. *I have not met, treated, diagnosed or analyzed anyone in this video or in this case. This video is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. It is advised to seek professional advice from your own licensed professional.* #creatorsearchinsights #ptsdtrauma #trauma #ptsd #MentalHealth

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*STITCH INCOMING* Her Only Fault Was Trusting Her Friend TRIGGER WARNING: SEXUAL ASSAULT AND THE THING HEART THE MOST R*PE CASE AND IS THAT THE GUY THAT INVITED NIGHT WAS HER FRIEND. Cornell Chi Phi drugging & gang r*** lawsuit (a deeper look) hold here for 2x speed TRIGGER WARNING: SEXUAL ASSAULT and university and after Cornell investigated the men accused were allowed to get off she reported it Cornell investigated 'alternative resolution' written assignments they won't even be expelled. As a trauma psychiatrist, a trauma researcher, I know that people have a lot of questions. They want to understand how could something like this happen? This woman, Jane Doe, alleges that that this happened and that a friend was the one that set her up for this. In fact, in the legal documents, there a text message that described her as "free" for this to happen by several men, allegedly. And while I don't know the people involved in the case, and I'm not making a diagnosis I will talk about how this has brought up a lot of discussion around what to do about something like this. Now, the first thing people how could people even do this? So there's something called diffusion of responsibility and pluralistic ignorance. When groups of people get together, sometimes the individuals know that, okay, this is wrong. Maybe we should stop this. But because it's a group doing it, they're less likely to speak up. Also, there are elements of substance use. When alcohol is involved, impairment and disinhibition I'm not excusing any behavior. I'm explaining the psychology of this. Additionally, experts say that when groups like fraternities and brotherhoods get together, there's a sense of loyalty to the brotherhood versus to the outsider, which in this case, would be the alleged victim. All of this combined leads to research that shows that there is higher SA in fraternity environments as a result of all of these indicators. And now what can we do about this? Because when people feel as if universities protect brotherhoods, because maybe they give money or donations or maybe universities maybe trying to protect their facade, their image, there's a sense of betrayal. And then allegedly in the court documents, there are themes of dissociation the victim feeling numb, feeling frozen; detached from the situation. There are elements of substance use in this case that could have led to that. But also, trauma can cause dissociation as a coping mechanism to protect the individual in a highly stressful environment that is highly painful. And so what can we do about this? There are resources that I'll provide as a link to this video, but also there are things that we can each do to look out for each other. So for example, when you're going out have a plan in advance. Have a group text, have a way for people to feel as if, okay, I'm going to watch your drink. Just make sure that you're aware that these things can happen. Bad things happen to good people all the time, and that's why I often talk about the just world hypothesis. oh, this won't happen to me. This happens to people who are reckless. No bad things happen to good people all the time. This could happen to anyone. So we really have to protect look out for each other, and also stand up for what's right. I just attended Amanda Nguyen's charity event for New York Fashion Week and she has a collective of Read caption below survivors and ways to support survivors and ways that the whole world can support survivors and to prevent this type of trauma.

Transcript

The thing that breaks my heart the most about the Cornell rape case and is that the guy that invited her to the frat house that night was her friend. A woman was drugged and gang-raped at my university and after Cornell investigated the men accused were allowed to get off. She reported it. Cornell investigated and the result, alternative resolution, written assignments. They won't even be expelled. As a trauma psychiatrist, a trauma researcher, I know that people have a lot of questions. They want to understand how could something like this happen? This woman, Jane Doe, alleges that that this happened and that a friend was the one that set her up for this. In fact, in the legal documents, there a text message that described her as "free" for this to happen by several men, allegedly. And while I don't know the people involved in the case, and I'm not making a diagnosis, I will talk about how this has brought up a lot of discussion around what to do about something like this. Now, the first thing people how could people even do this? So there's something called diffusion of responsibility and pluralistic ignorance. When groups of people get together, sometimes the individuals know that, okay, this is wrong. Maybe we should stop this. But because it's a group doing it, they're less likely to speak up. Also, there are elements of substance use. When alcohol is involved, impairment and disinhibition go down. I'm not excusing any behavior. I'm explaining the psychology of this. Additionally, experts say that when groups like fraternities and brotherhoods get together, there's a sense of loyalty to the brotherhood versus to the outsider, which in this case, would be the alleged victim. All of this combined leads to research that shows that there is higher SA in fraternity environments as a result of all of these indicators. And now what can we do about this? Because when people feel as if universities protect brotherhoods, because maybe they give money or donations or maybe universities maybe trying to protect their facade, their image, there's a sense of betrayal. And then allegedly in the court documents, there are themes of dissociation, the victim feeling numb, feeling frozen; detached from the situation. There are elements of substance use in this case that could have led to that. But also, trauma can cause dissociation as a coping mechanism to protect the individual in a highly stressful environment that is highly painful. And so what can we do about this? There are resources that I'll provide as a link to this video, but also there are things that we can each do to look out for each other. So for example, when you're going out have a plan in advance. Have a group text, have a way for people to feel as if, okay, I'm going to watch your drink. Just make sure that you're aware that these things can happen. Bad things happen to good people all the time, and that's why I often talk about the just world hypothesis. oh, this won't happen to me. This happens to people who are reckless. No bad things happen to good people all the time. This could happen to anyone. So we really have to protect look out for each other, and also stand up for what's right. I just attended Amanda Nguyen's charity event for New York Fashion Week and she has a collective of Read caption below survivors and ways to support survivors and ways that the whole world can support survivors and to prevent this type of trauma.