ADHD IN WOMEN THE NEED TO OVER EXPLAIN

@briannesaturdays

89.0K followers · usually 15.4K views a post

Views

1.1M

Likes

232.9K

Comments

3.1K

Shares

49.9K

SoundTikTok sound · original sound - briannesaturdays

Promoted product

ADHD PAPERadhdpaper.com

5 videos

Why it worked

The video taps into a specific, relatable experience for a niche audience (women with ADHD) by validating a behavior that might otherwise be seen as a flaw, offering a supportive perspective and practical advice.

Summary

The creator discusses the tendency for women with ADHD to over-explain due to a fear of being misunderstood or perceived as lying. She advises finding "safe people" like partners or friends who are patient and allow for this over-explanation, framing it as a need of the nervous system.

Structure

1Introduction to the need to over-explain for women with ADHD
2Explaining the underlying feeling of needing to tell everything
3The fear of being perceived as lying if not over-explaining
4The contrast with how others perceive this need

Original caption

We’re trying to avoid being misunderstood and manage our rejection sensitivity, so let us 😅 #adhdinwomen

More from @briannesaturdays

Product placement

ADHD PAPER (a platform for women with ADHD) ACTS - it is mentioned as something the creator is building and implicitly offers resources or community for women with ADHD. Removing it would change the creator's stated purpose and offerings. The creator's bio link is ADHDpaper.com, which is the URL for this product.

Call to action

Find your safe people that allow you to over explain.

On-screen text

ADHD IN WOMEN THE NEED TO OVER EXPLAIN YOU NEED TO BE QUIET AND LET ME OVER EXPLAIN IT WOMEN WITH ADHD NEED THEIR SAFE PEOPLE TO OVEREXPLAIN TO THERE IS SOMETHING IN US THAT FEELS THE NEED TO TELL YOU EVERYTHING YOU'RE NOT ASKING US EVERYTHING BUT FOR SOME REASON IF WE DON'T TELL YOU EVERYTHING WE FEEL LIKE YOU THINK THAT WE'RE LYING YOU PROBABLY NEVER EVEN SAID THAT TO US BUT THERE IS SOMETHING IN US THAT NEEDS TO OVER EXPLAIN BUT THERE IS SOMETHING IN US THAT NEEDS TO OVER EXPLAIN AND A LOT OF PEOPLE DON'T REALLY WANT TO HEAR YOU OVER EXPLAIN OFTEN TIMES YOU HEAR YOU DON'T HAVE TO TELL ME ALL THAT OR OH I BELIEVE YOU THAT'S NOT NECESSARY NO YOU DON'T GET IT YOU NEED TO BE QUIET AND LET ME OVER EXPLAIN IT SO FIND YOUR SAFE PEOPLE THAT ALLOW YOU TO OVER EXPLAIN YOUR PARTNER YOUR BEST FRIEND WHOMEVER I HAVE A PARTNER THAT WILL LET ME OVER EXPLAIN THE SAME THING 25 TIMES IN AN HOUR AND SOMETIMES IT'S WHAT MY NERVOUS SYSTEM NEEDS THERE'S NO SHAME IN IT JUST GET YOUR SAFE PEOPLE TO OVER EXPLAIN TO

Transcript

You need to be quiet and let me over explain it. Women with ADHD need their safe people to over explain to. There is something in us that feels the need to tell you everything. You're not asking us everything, but for some reason if we don't tell you everything, we feel like you think that we're lying. You probably never even said that to us. But there is something in us that needs to over explain. But there is something in us that needs to over explain. And a lot of people don't really want to hear you over explain. Often times you hear, you don't have to tell me all that or, oh, I believe you, that's not necessary. No, you don't get it. You need to be quiet and let me over explain it. So find your safe people that allow you to over explain. Your partner, your best friend, whomever. I have a partner that will let me over explain the same thing 25 times in an hour, and sometimes it's what my nervous system needs. There's no shame in it. Just get your safe people to over explain to.