First Date

Always Facetime before the first date, because why are you meeting up with a man in person that you only texted with? I had a Facetime first date last night that reminded me exactly why I love this process, because I was able to close my laptop at the end and be like, wow, I'm never gonna meet you in person. I don't have to waste any of my actual time in a restaurant having to learn that about you. Now, here's the thing. If I went based on his profile, I maybe would have texted with him back and forth. I would have thought that he was very charming, very cool, you know, we had maybe a lot in common, everything like that. I wouldn't have been able to really understand, engage his personality. It's not. If I got on a Facetime call with him, I was able to realise that he didn't talk about anything but himself. He had no intention on talking about anything but himself. I, me, I, me, me. He asked me one question the entire time we're on the phone. And if I was sitting in a restaurant, having to be subjected to this, sitting there while he keeps telling me all the things he's done and things he wants to do and stories about this and the third that I literally never asked about, I would have felt like I was gonna, like, pulling my teeth out. But I didn't. Have to. I was able to stay at home on my laptop and close it afterwards and wrap that up and decide that we actually will never be in person cause this is never gonna work. I save myself time, I saved him time. But whenever you're having a conversation only through text, people have too much time to think about, how does she want me to respond? How do I wanna be perceived? What's the right answer? When you're on the phone, when you're on a Facetime, that's when they really reveal, like, just who they are. That's your actual first impression. If you do not have a first impression that is actual, actually genuine and realistic, there's no point in meeting up with someone in person if you are only meeting men in person that you've only texted. That's probably why your first dates feel like they fucking suck. I love dating, and dating is so fun while I go through this process because I don't meet up with anyone who I know for a fact I can't hold a conversation with before we link. Period.