5 non-negotiables before I have a baby

I'm ready to have a baby. I don't know how I finally came to this conclusion on a random Wednesday at 12 PM, but I did. You want to say I have always and still do take this decision very seriously. So here are five things that I absolutely need to accomplish or have in line in my life before we actually make the jump. You didn't know before this video, you will now. I'm the most hype person you will ever meet. First thing is more of like a financial goal and it's a three-parter, naturally. First, there is a very specific number I want to hit this year in terms of my income to feel comfortable having a child. I do live in California, kids are expensive. So I need to make a certain amount of money to be able to afford a house cleaner, post-partum. I feel like that doesn't even need an explanation. Be able to afford outings for Winston. Whether that's him going to daycare with our trainer, whether that's him doing a day adventure with our other trainer friend, whether that's me being able to book our favorite mobile dog gym to come to our house and do a slam ball session. How incredible does it sound having your dog and your home mildly taken care of, post-partum? Number two, me and Tyler are locking the fuck in on our mental health. He's done a much better job at this than me. He's done a lot of work on himself last year and I'm really proud of him. He is actually the one that encouraged me to go back to therapy, which I started last week. Because God forbid we don't want to pass on generational trauma. God forbid we face our demons before passing onto our kids, you know? Number three is kind of in that same realm, but we are also locking the fuck in on our physical health. I posted a whole video on this the other day, so you can check out that video for more details. Did you know when you conceive, the egg and sperm from your life style habits three months ago? Meaning if I had a kid right now, that would be my poor little egg from all the stress of wedding planning. Yeah. We're going to take a second, we're going to recoup. We're going to manage our stress, we're going to eat healthy, we're going to exercise, which we've been doing. But just making sure we are maintaining that lifestyle leading up to conception. Number four, I have ensured that we have a really good support system around us. And this one is also going to sound oddly specific, but my mom recently got a new job and she's now working hybrid and just has way more flexible work schedule than she ever had before. So I cannot lie, it is a huge contributing factor to me feeling prepared and ready to have a child, knowing that I could have help during the week while Tyler's at work, if I needed it. And not only just help, but like say I just need to meet up with someone and go on a walk. Say I need to take a shower. Say I need to speak to a human being that's not a baby, you know? These are the things I'm thinking through. The overall theme here is that I'm trying to minimize the crash outs post-partum, if you can't tell. Number five, training my dog. I am a chronically overstimulated girly. And one of my biggest fears post-partum is that Winston's going to overstimulate the crap out of me. So I have been very, very, very on it with his place training and his crate training. Honestly, for a while now. I've also been a little bit more strict with his place training in the evening to get him to settle. I just want to know if I am overstimulated or if I have a fussy baby, if I can send him to place and he can relax and then that's one less thing off my mind. So that's how I am. I know I'm putting a ridiculous amount of thought into this, but I'm literally bringing a life into this world. That is a big responsibility and I want to have some things in place, you know?